[Lemon]

I just heard my h has just signed our divorce papers. He lives far away from me so now they will be mailed back to me to sign..........then we submit them to the judge...........no need for a court date or anything like that, so I don't think this will take very long until everything is final. I feel pretty horrible. I'm not sure how I'm going to feel signing those papers. Probably either very shaky or I'll kind of disassociate from it. I have a feeling I'm going to have a hard time concentrating at work today.

[Lemon]

I guess I was hoping someone would post some support.

[eskielover]

Not sure what the cause of the divorce was, but sometimes when the relationship is really bad, it is a very good thing to get it over with & start a new fresh life. I would think that would be a good feeling to not have to be living with someone who isn't compatible. (I have been married for 32 years & just can't tolerate the stress anymore...it is going to be such a relief to be away from the stress, it's going to feel like complete new & exciting life).

It seems that I am the exception rather than the rule, but maybe it might be worth looking at the freedom that will come with signing the papers.....looking at the good points rather than just that is's over with.

I hope you will really do well & that you will have the strength to be an independent person after it's all over. This may not be the kind of support you feel you need, but sometimes we need to look at the situation we are in ....in a different light.

Debbie

[Chalkdust]

Hello Lemon -

I know for me signing the papers was a difficult day. I mean I know we should not be together and haven't been for a year....infact she is with someone else as I write this...but it still represented a hurt to me.....a failure....but signing it also brought on feelins of finally being able to get on with my life.....though the court date is set for November 5th which I am sure is going to be a rude awakening day for me but I will take this one day at a time. Hope you have a nice day....givie yourself a break too....I don't think anyone would be able to totally concentrate on a day knowing the papers have been signed.

Tobey

[sunrise]

Hi Lemon. That is a big milestone, and I understand your feelings of sadness. There is a lot of grieving involved in getting a divorce. It's OK to grieve, and it's healthy. Little by little, you will feel better and have less grieving to do. Or so they say. I'm in the middle of it myself, but that's what I've heard.

((((hugs))))

[Lemon]

Tobey, Thanks for your kind post. You are so right.....even if you know something is the right step to take it can still be a painful and difficult process. My post was from Thursday so I'm two days past that now and don't feel the sadness so much. I expect I'll be the one doing the signing next week so you are right I'll take it one day at a time.

Sunrise - You're always so understanding. Thanks for the post! I hope your divorce process continues moving forward also.

sorry for late post... have a raging sinus infection..

you are feeling better it sounds like... and I am glad... getting over that hurdle of signing.. is a big one.. but once past... is better...