[Mila-BB]

We've been married 10 years. Have a wanderful 4 years old son. My husband has always been loving and supportive, so was I. A year ago we moved to USA. I left behind everything - family, job, career, friends.... Although times were hard for both of us, our love kept us together. 5 months ago I learnt that we had been cheating me with his former employee and my friend. I was shocked, upset. Decided to leave him, but he did't let me go. We came trought it somehow. Then 2 months ago I found photos of another girl in his phone. And again I was shocked and broken. Because all those 10 years I sacrificed everything just for him, he was all I have, the closest one on earth, and all I got was love and support from him. Right the next day I saw that photos he sent me sent me a photo of his to make a purchase and on the background of the card was another phone and a girl in it. He came home and said he is going away. He denies everything concerning that girl. He keeps on telling me that the divorce is just because of us, because he cannot get enough emotions from our relationship. A few days ago I leant that he is sending flowers to this girl every other day, to Russia, but he still keeps on telling that he is just tired of me, that this is also for me to become strong and independent person etc. But on the other hand he is talking on whatsapp days long and this makes me sick and stressed even more. I am completely shocked, broken, depressed. I am alone here with my son. I keep on crying and cannot concentrate on anything. I cannot imagine my tomorrow. I just live for my son.
Please advise how to cope with this. How to start to live again.

[eskielover]

Can you go to your embassy & go back to your family with your son?

I would probably start with that. Distancing from the hurt where you have support really helps. I left & moved to a place where I knew no one but made more wonderful friends than ever before in my life.

I would also talk with a lawyer. They may suggest you leave the country with your son & file for divorce in the country you are from. Some divorces otherwise require the child to star in the state the divorce happens in.....good to get legal advice on this

[Scotty204]

It sounds like he's checked out and moved on. You need to start preparing mentally as hard as it sounds for a separation or divorce.

[Nevernomore]

A lawyer first to help you find out your best course and then if you stay in this country perhaps some counseling to help you through this difficult time. Accepting when a relationship is over is painful but can also be the beginning of a better life especially since you have your son to care for. Take care and best of luck to you.

[Scared12]

Originally Posted by Mila-BB

We've been married 10 years. Have a wanderful 4 years old son. My husband has always been loving and supportive, so was I. A year ago we moved to USA. I left behind everything - family, job, career, friends.... Although times were hard for both of us, our love kept us together. 5 months ago I learnt that we had been cheating me with his former employee and my friend. I was shocked, upset. Decided to leave him, but he did't let me go. We came trought it somehow. Then 2 months ago I found photos of another girl in his phone. And again I was shocked and broken. Because all those 10 years I sacrificed everything just for him, he was all I have, the closest one on earth, and all I got was love and support from him. Right the next day I saw that photos he sent me sent me a photo of his to make a purchase and on the background of the card was another phone and a girl in it. He came home and said he is going away. He denies everything concerning that girl. He keeps on telling me that the divorce is just because of us, because he cannot get enough emotions from our relationship. A few days ago I leant that he is sending flowers to this girl every other day, to Russia, but he still keeps on telling that he is just tired of me, that this is also for me to become strong and independent person etc. But on the other hand he is talking on whatsapp days long and this makes me sick and stressed even more. I am completely shocked, broken, depressed. I am alone here with my son. I keep on crying and cannot concentrate on anything. I cannot imagine my tomorrow. I just live for my son.
Please advise how to cope with this. How to start to live again.

I must agree it not easy however, life has many roadblocks, potholes and dark corners. You however have to realise that we are all here for a purpose. Everyone we meet is for a reason, a season or a lifetime and therefore is a teacher aiding us towards our destiny. We must therefore take it one day at a time because no one owes us anything. We are the best for our own selves. Thank him for the lessons you have learn and move forward open for new experience and greater wisdom. There is however, someone who was born to help you fulfill your purpose. When you are at the right season you will attract that one. He will complement you when no other could have. Tell you ex thanks for visiting and goodbye so you can meet the right one who was born to help you fill your purpose and destiny.

[continuosly blue]

“Falling in love “, feels great , until you hit the ground ! When one promises to “ just be yours “ , and you promise to “ just be theirs “ , both are promises that are rarely kept. Why do we act like we “ own” the other person , like they are a piece of property ? It’s idealism. The reality is that many people “ fall out of love “ just because of being human. I can’t expect anyone to love me “ forever “.
Unfortunately at some point I will let them down. They will let me down.
Life is like the game of chess. You make a move , one out of many possible moves , and then life makes a move. The variables are astronomical. The best chess players think MANY moves ahead in anticipation of what is sure to come.
Love is a beautiful thing , and then life gets in the way. Unfortunately many people, including myself, lack the wisdom, at any age , to understand the fundamental truths behind reality.