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Nov 25, 2008, 06:45 PM
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it happened.. something in my brain went "click" and it is done... sooooo done.
about a month ago he started yelling at me on the phone... and i suddenly realized that this was what i needed to get away from two years ago. i felt the same fear, the same despair, the same desperation. CLICK. It had to just freakin' stop... anything was better than this. so i decided i needed to make a move... that was when i posted about putting something big in motion. i filed a document that took something away from him but also released me from a major responsibility to him. i was scared but it was what it was... once started it couldn't be stopped. i dealt with it all a lot better than i thought i would. since then... omg.. he is surreal... no one would ever believe me if i wrote a book.. and i might. He has several dx's and he has come up with some pretty weird stuff. He called me for advice on how to help his NEW GIRLFRIEND's bpd... unbelievable. He has been seeing her for months now.. and this is how i found out. i don't care.. she can have him.. but to call and ask ME for advice for her?? i told him i couldn't believe the kahunas he has. but CLICK... i've been seeking legal advice as fast as possible.. but i dont' know the law well enough to be sure of how to do this. Since there aren't any kids, shared assetts, property.. and we have been living apart... i don't think there are any serious grounds for him to contest my petition. When a spouse isn't co-operative it is apparently a longer more expensive process... but i would think that applies to cases with something to contest.. even if he tries to drag it out, i don't see what he could present to do so. Any ideas?
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Nov 25, 2008, 07:17 PM
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I went to the local courthouse (they call it the Justice Center) and picked up a fairly substantial packet of forms for $25. Ours was uncontested with one child still at home and split everything 50/50. We declared our income and assets and filed it with the court ($200). No attorney, one parenting class, a short hearing, and 90 days later (Oct 15th) it was over. I hope and pray it goes as smoothly for you.
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Nov 25, 2008, 07:26 PM
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(((((((((((((((( Candika ))))))))))))))))))
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Dec 02, 2008, 11:54 AM
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 Glad that click happened, I know it can be painful, but sure helps a lot. Good legal advice is the way to go, along with that, can be useful to research laws in your area, nolo.com is a good source: Divorce in Your State
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