[Isabella12]

After all of my hard work earlier this year to lose the 13 lbs I gained after a breakup i've completed gained it back. The good news is that i've found a really great guy to be with. The bad news is that since dating him i've stopped exercising, started eating dairy and eggs, started eating way more often, and drunkenly told him of my issues with food. I feel like i'm force fed. Or that he'll get mad if I don't eat or express that i'm feeling fat. I know this comes from love, but it doesn't help and ultimately I feel big. I've resolved to eat half of what I have been eating and cut back on the fatty **** i've been devouring lately. Also to cut down on alcohol consumption. My clothes don't fit anymore and unfortunately, his kind words and encouragements don't how I feel about fix that. I should have never told him.

[matt c]

Hi Isabella!
Glad to hear youve found "a really great guy" to be with. I guess you'd have to have told him sometime, especially if you want it to be a long term relationship thing.
But at the same time you worry that he'll get mad if you dont eat or express how youre feeling...how about giving him the chance to prove otherwise? As a guy speaking (if not a particularly great one) Id feel quite hurt if I thought my GF couldnt tell me what she was going through!
Cutting back on the fatty **** and the alcohol sounds great, but please dont start restricting too much! Dont want any rebound binging occuring.
Here's a thought...you said you told him while drunk...have you discussed with him since then what he thought about what you told him?

Post again & let us all know how things are going!

Matt c

[mlpHolmes]

Hello Isabella!

Matt what a great post!! GO Matt!!!

Isabella have you considered a Support Group in which you can share your
problems & the difficulties you are facing? I've found a lot of good friends & it feels so good to talk w/ ppl w/ the same concerns I had! You may find these support groups helpful also!!!

Warmest Blessings,
Holmes
Chat Leader
Moderator

[Isabella12]

Thanks for all the nice words, guys. Yes, we have discussed the topic sober. Yes, there is a support group roughly 30 minutes from where I live on Wednesday night but i'm not sure that i'm ready to engage in something like that. I'd much rather have a personal counselor but I can't afford one so i've more-or-less just been trying to wing-it on my own with online support like this site and opening up to friends more. As far as the "great guy", evidence has proven otherwise over the weekend. See the new thread I posted titled "trigger".

[client]

Hi. I'm new. Have done the usual lose tons of weight only to regain it. Did very well with hypnosis but got pregnant and stopped listening to my tapes and gained it all back. aalways gain it back. I am in therapy now for issues from way back. we have touched on my eating pattrns but I reaally feel I need more. There is a good eating disorder program in town but insurance will only pay for my therapy or the eating disorder. will probaabaly sign up for ED once I end regular therapy. feels like a long way off. appetite was slightly controlled when I went on prozac. but got antidepressant apathy syndrome and felt like a lifeless slug. switched to another anti depressant and the apatahy seems to be gone. so far so good. unfortunately, as my eating disorder is treatead, my weight is still up there and goes up and up. 100 pounds is alot to lose. struggling with weight while on weight watchers. but at least I am trying.