[cka87]

Let me preface this by saying I DO want to recover, real bad!

I’ve been seeing my T since March (with a little break June-July because I panicked and didn’t want to try recovery). I like her, I trust her, she’s easy to talk to etc. but lately I’ve been questioning if I should even go. I don’t think therapy has helped me at all so far- I don’t know what it is supposed to do or how it is supposed to help…? I’m not sure how to explain it in words. I’m putting in effort, I’ve asked her for homework to do in between sessions and I want to make this work but I don’t see any point in going. The thing is if I quit counseling I have no other back up plans so in that sense I don’t want to quit because where will I go from there? I don’t want to try out new therapists because I don’t see what the point is.

Lastly…the past 2 times I’ve tried to schedule an appt over email my T doesn’t write back then when I email again she says “oh I emailed you not sure what happened” which could be true but my brain is saying “She’s trying to drop you, she doesn’t want to see you, just quit!” now I can’t get that out of my head.

I guess my question is…where do I go from here? Is therapy actually useful? It feels so pointless to me, am I seeing the wrong person? Sorry if this is totally dumb but I’m stuck.

[HealingTimes]

Hey, cka
It's not dumb at all, so dont worry about that
I would bring your concerns up with your therapist.

[ar2004]

Is email the normal way your T communicates with clients and makes appointments? I do the same thing when people don't respond to my emails and today in my T session, I learned that it is a type of cognitive distortion. There could be many reasons why someone isn't responding to my email but I take it personally. Anyway, it sounds like you have connected with your T because trust has been established so I wouldn't recommend going to someone else.

What I am discovering in myself is that I want my ED cured now and or maybe even yesterday...but I am not going to get my wish unfortunately. It will take a lot of time and effort on my part and therapy is an important part of that. Therapy is not all of it though...it is only one hour of our week (if we go on a weekly basis) so a lot of life is lived in between those sessions. I think besides therapy homework, you might ask your T for a better sense of the focus of therapy and how you use it to make positive changes in your day-to-day life.

[Victoria'smom]

I would not quit therapy based on what you are saying but you do need to talk to her. You could always give yourself home-work. Pick up an ED workbook, journal or do a mood/event/thought chart. I know my therapist hates me over thinking everything. Only asked me to do homework when I'm in a seriously bad place.

For me therapy is subtle and at times I have had to ask T how she's helped me. I've 'naturally' increased my food intake to 2x as much as when I started seeing her. I've only been seeing her for 2 yrs.

I would talk to your T about your frustrations, and how to reach her so that you don't feel unwanted.

[eskielover]

T's can only help us fix ourselves by giving us skills that we don't have & help us see things in a different way than we are seeing them in order to make the changes that are necessary to get better......changing behavior is NOT easy & it takes practice, practice & more practice on OUR PART & that is NOTHING that a T can make us do & homework doesn't make us do that either...it can just help us to see the things differently that we are having problems with & hopefully have a better chance of changing....but just learning something without practicing the change doesn't give us any success either.

T's purpose also to encourage us to be willing to make those changes necessary to get better along with providing us with the skills for us to put into practice to make the changes.....Real Therapy IS A LOT OF WORK & it takes a lot of effort to make the necessary changes