[anxiety247]

I had an ED my whole life. Most of the time I just overate to bury feelings and numb out. 2008 I was at my highest weight ever and needed to lose weight. I started off on what I thought was a harmless diet/exercise plan well it went overboard and I became severely emaciated. 2011 I had to go inpatient for few weeks. Ed therapist dumped me and there wasnt any other providers in my area so I got with another therapist and we didnt talk about the ED in the 2yrs I was there. Last year I was able to ease back on the restriction. However I was eating more and gained a lot of weight back. Had a appt with prim doc recently and when he looked at my chart he said I needed to lose weight. What concerns me is the past few weeks I been eating less then 700c a day. That good feeling is coming back and where like I feel more in control. I can't discuss this with my current T bc she isnt trained for it. I feel like this is a slippery slope and I can fall right back in.

[Travelinglady]

Can you find a therapist who is more of a specialist in ED? That, of course, would be your best bet.

How are things going now?

[eskielover]

Just because a T isn't specifically trained for ED, doesn't mean they aren't good at therapy regarding it....maybe you should give her a chance rather than holding onto your preconceived notion that because she isn't a specialist in ED she can't help you.

The psychologist I have not isn't trained with ED either....but she has helped me more with anorexia issues using the DBT skills than the help I was supposedly getting the first time I was treated for anorexia even in the treatment center.

You never know what kind of help they can really provide unless you check her ability out.....then it if you find that she's not capable.....then look for another option....but don't throw away what you have before you in reality check out her ability.

Personally I dislike people trained in ED because they have preconceived notions of what is causing your problem & love to put people into their box that they have already determined people with ED are supposed to be in.

[anxiety247]

The thing is with my new therapist - She is trying to zone in on one thing at a time. I have so much **** going on. She suggested starting on my past - that is where there is a TON of trauma. I don't know if this is good because I have no coping skills except bad ones when that sort of stuff pops up in my head between appts which is meeting every 6wks. I have another wks to go til I see her and it will be quite apparent when I see her the weight loss. I mentioned the ED to her when she asked what I wanted to work on but we need to revist my past 1st.

[anxiety247]

I did have a appt with my T yesterday I brought up the ED she said absolutely nothing. Looked at me and said my weight was fine. Like I said she cant help.

[waggiedog]

Hi there. I'm sooooo sorry to hear that you feel this therapist just isn't the one for you and I have to admit, it doesn't seem that she is. Yes, I do agree with ((eskielover)) that the therapist doesn't necessarily have to be qualified in dealing with ED's as some are very good with all round issues. However in your case and as you've now told us, this person is probably not the one. I also feel that telling you that you need to LOOSE weight is really NOT helpful, she obviously didn't read back over your history. Is it possible to request a change? I don't know what country you live in but I'm from the UK and it's a long long wait for therapy anyways. I hope this doesn't upset your eating habits too much, but do try and see what other route you can go down. HUGS.

[maddnessreturns]

I'm not sure what options you have but I ended up in the same boat. When I was really bad my therapist dropped me as a patient because I was a "liability" and couldn't afford residential. And then fast forward if someone doesn't know how to handle ED it is sometimes difficult for them to know what not to say as it seems your therapist currently doesn't get that saying you look perfectly fine isn't the best come back. Have you looked at places further away? I drive an hour for mine that has ED experience. It sucks but its better than nothing. Also some larger hospitals have ED clinics that are outpatient. I don't know where you are at but some places just suck at there being ED help available. If you ever want to talk your welcome to message me.