[jessicaxox3]

i just dont understand. last year i was about 5'1 and 75-80 pounds. i was on the verge of being hospitilized. now i am around 5'4 and around 100-105 pounds. so , im still underweight. however, my sister calls me fatty. she sees it as a joke but it still kills me inside. i know shes just kidding because she knows im underweight but she keeps calling me fat. should i talk to her about it? tell her its not that funny.

help? =/

I don't know what your relationship is with her but if I saw you at 75-80 lbs at the height of 5'4", it would have scared the heck out of me, and I'm not your sister but a stranger. I can only imagine she must be relieved to see that you've gained weight and feels a certain happiness towards your being "fat"-it's a pleasure and a relief for her, I'm sure.
Know that she says that with love and it's her way of saying "I'm soooo very happy that you're better, I was really scared when you were really too skinny and boney."
(((((((((((jessica)))))))))))))

[littlemissjess]

I'm almost 5'3" and I weigh 115lbs and I thought that was alot and I want to lose weight! But if I saw you too, I'd be very worried. I don't see many people with ED's, but as a stranger and not knowing you, or what you look like I'd say you're very underweight. My boyfriend calls me chubster. But he says he likes my baby fat? (Don't know how!) You aren't fat though, and when my BF calls me fat, he says he's only kidding. But hang in there. I don't know what your relationship is with your sister is either, but hang in there and be strong!

[silver_queen]

Depending on what your relationship with your sister is like, perhaps you could just tell her that when she says you're fat, it hurts you and doesn't help you. Such things just keep undermining your confidence. It would be best to bring it to her attention though because perhaps she isn't realizing the effect it's having on you. Try to convey the seriousness of it as well - it's not just something that's upsetting you, but it might also be negatively influencing your recovery.

[Maven]

Yeah, I'd tell her about it. Explain you understand she's saying it in humor and doesn't mean to hurt you, but it does. Try to tell her what it's like from your point of view. Then tell her you appreciate that she's close enough to make jokes with you, just to not make that one. Then give her a hug.

[Juliana]

My sister calls me "ice princess" but that doesn't mean it's true.

I think you should talk to your sister about how her "joke" makes you feel. It's very hurtful to you and she needs to know that it's not acceptable.

[EJ711]

I'm sorry for your sister's insensitivity.

I agree with Juliana that you need to confront her, and tell her that her doing this hurts your feelings, and it is not acceptable.

Hugs,

EJ

[lil_bit]

Sometimes people just don't understand the effect that their words can have. I know it's oh so much easier said than done, but try not to take her words to heart. I'm in agreement with the others, confront her. Saying those things might be a "joke" to her, perhaps if you talk to her and let her see that it's serious to you then she may stop.

[dcs_no1_fan]

Im sorry about your sister being so horrible I know what its like I had my sister tell me all my life that I was thick fat & ugly I know now that she was jeluse as I was the skinny one & she was the fat one but she is the reason nI have anorexia I would talk to her & tell her that as she already knows you are under weight & tell her how you fell about your self & what she says to you is hurting you & hopefully she will stop if she doesnt then tell your mum I hope you can get it sorted out its not nice to go through at any age im 29 & 121lb & she still thinks like that about me she is 31 & about 170lb

Take care