My eating disorder is my problem...

I should not expect help from my MD...

I should not expect help from my friends..

He said: "I have too high of expectations of my best friend - that she would.. do grocercy shopping ONE time.. and help me cook ONE time"

He said: " He had no friends that would do that for him. Nor would he do it for anyone else"

did I mention.. I have been friends for 27 years... and helped her during her mothers death.. her fathers death... her husbands cancer... her dogs death... her moving... clearing out her house... her father's house.. "

He said: "you are all alone"...

He is right..

I created this.. and should expect no one to help me...

[Fuzzybear]

Wow, any T who said that would be dumped by me Sounds to me like he has big "issues" and that he shouln't have said that... I don't agree with any of those comments

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[luckyyouxx]

thats the stupidest thing i've ever heard
i think he needs to go back to school or go through life again and smarten the f*** up. i dont think he has a clue what he is talking about, if you can change therapists i'd suggest that!

[Perna]

That friend doesn't sound like a useful friend! In a sense you're on your own like your T says because it is your problem and you have to figure out how to get it solved; but I'd be quite pissed at the friend who wouldn't help and express it and that's okay too.

Why is this person your best friend? Has she helped in the past? She may not be able to help with these sorts of things, it my be beyond her.

I was always shocked about how things were like in my T's life too and how different they were from what I would do and my expectations. If you T wouldn't do these things for anyone and doesn't know anyone who would do them for him, I'd feel sorry for him. But of course he'd have the point of view he has, that being the case.

His comment was just telling you about his world and the greater world as he sees it, I wouldn't take it personally. There may not be a lot of people who would help you in this, even though you and I would help others.

[mlpHolmes]

Hi Freewill Actually I think your best friend & T put themselves in A place not "you in YOUR place".IMHO their react-ions & opinions are more about them than about you. I agree with Perna, not to take their comments & lack of support personally (although that can be extrememly hard to do!!) I don't see it as the T putting you in your place. Can you see it from other perspectives? Once again IMHO, I would put this T in his place.

[Christina86]

((((((((((((((freewill)))))))))))))))))))

I agree with everyone.

Thanks... everyone....

have thought about this a great deal too.....

my MD.... won't help... so funny... she sent nurse to draw my blood.. and wouldnt even come back into the room... she had the nurse call me about the results a couple of days later... I had asked my MD for help with my ED... ie.. nurtitionist... help for why my body.. won't digest foods... the MD... just disappeared.. so.. what can I say....

my T... I don't want to "live" in his world I decided... or perhaps I do... am not jealous... really... but with is devoted wife and 3 daughters...

it really "cut" to my core.. when he said "my friend should not be expected to help.. and he had no friends that he would expect of that..
but.. when I asked him "do you have family that would help?"... well.. his response said it all "yes they would"...

and of course I have not family.. like that...

so... my friend.. of 27 years... why are we friends... well.. I love her... I do... and she can''t help her viewpoint on life.. it is ingrained in her.. as mine is in me... "I would help.. anyone because I have been in need... and so... I don't want anyone else to go without"...

my friend...by her own estimation.. is self-serving... she recognizes it thru the years.. and.. so it is one of the reasons they did not have children.. she.. just really says that she is.. self serving... she at times.. worries about it when she takes a look at her faith...but not enough to change her viewpoint"...

I think that my T.... pointing out that I am "alone".... was not helpful to a person with an eating disorder....

The eating disorder is terrifying enough... without dealing with the thought of being totally and compeletly alone in life... without anyone.. that cares enough IRL... to help me... live... get better...

It may be "reality".... but is stil very terrifying to me....

can't get help... from my T... my MD...

what is more.. scary... than being deathly sick... and being totally alone... in the dark of the night...

ya know??