[waterknob1234]

I have been suffering from depression for almost a year now. I cannot afford a therapist due to massive medical bills, nor can I take the time off of work to go to a therapist once a week. My medical doctor has been treating my depression with citalopram. He recently added buspirone 5mg twice a day which seems to help some with my emotions. Most of my misery seems to be related to a very stressful job. I am looking for another job but haven't found one yet. I want to make changes in my life to make things better. A new company took over our office and they conduct themselves like bullies and intimidators. Do you have any advice on how to cope with my current situation? Thanks.

[pegasus]

Hello waterknob1234,

Do you really have to stay in a job where they are abusive, bullying is abuse. You mental health is far more important. Is there a way you could do a less stressful job? Or is there a possibility of going part time so that you are limiting the amount of time in an abusive situation.

Here is a really good article about coping with bullying in the workplace. Bullying in the Work Place ? You?re the boss of YOU! | Tales of Manic Depression

In the meantime practice good positive self-talk, go out on your break and get fresh air and hold your head high. Share your feelings with those you trust, bottling it up will make the depression worse. Keep sharing here at Psych Central.

[Little Lulu]

Great advice pegasus. I will add this - when times get really tough, I pray for (or send positive vibes, however you want to put it) the people I am having trouble with. It is amazing how well it works to change my attitude.

[waterknob1234]

Originally Posted by Little Lulu

Great advice pegasus. I will add this - when times get really tough, I pray for (or send positive vibes, however you want to put it) the people I am having trouble with. It is amazing how well it works to change my attitude.

That's a great suggestion. I think the hardest thing is the new management that took over our office is 1. Changing the way things are done. 2. Demanding more work from us with less resources. I am being asked to do what is 4 people's work. and 3. Threatening us when we can't get everything done on their timeline. and 4. Critiquing everything we do as if we were all just idiots before they came one the scene. Intimidation city. I'm not the only one there looking for another job.

[Blitter2014]

Originally Posted by waterknob1234

That's a great suggestion. I think the hardest thing is the new management that took over our office is 1. Changing the way things are done. 2. Demanding more work from us with less resources. I am being asked to do what is 4 people's work. and 3. Threatening us when we can't get everything done on their timeline. and 4. Critiquing everything we do as if we were all just idiots before they came one the scene. Intimidation city. I'm not the only one there looking for another job.

1. Change is hard for anyone....so don't feel like your failing cause your finding it hard...a lot would.
2. Do your best snd be happy in yourself knowing uouve given your best...the worst the csn do is make you redundant / fire you....is that really going to happen so quick after a takeover? They ate probably riding everyone to see who can do what.
3. Threatening is not on. Stand up to threats. "Im doing my best, but its going to take time to adapt to your requirements. If my best is not good enough then perhaps you can suggest what we do? " Put it back on them respectfully but make sure they realize your an assett doing your best and not some worthless loafing lacky.
4. New bosses are idiots. Most don't really realize what they've bought, how it operates or eho really does what. They've invested capital and want return! Give them time to adjust (set limit you'll put up with it) and in meantime try to use philosophy "as long as money goes in bank"....

Hope there's something in there yhat makes sense and can possibly use. You work for too much of your life to not gain any satisfaction from. Just make sure don't jump from frypan into fire.....

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[healingme4me]

Feeling trapped certainly plays on depression symptoms. In the worst way, too.
I like the suggestion, to speak up, state that you are doing the best you can under the current circumstances and would appreciate any feedback or solutions. State you don't want to come accross insubordinate, like the direction they are taking (lie with smile on your face there), and want to be a team player.

How are the job leads coming? Don't quit, without a new job in writing. Take internal power back, knowing they'd have to fire you and unemployment is your cushion.

:Hug:

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[waterknob1234]

Hi healing. No job leads yet. I have applied for a couple of things but I will have to keep looking. I'm just trying to emotionally deal with this current job till I get something else. I know what blitter means by jumping from the frying pan into the fire. I left an okay job three and a half years ago to take this job. I thought it would be a marvelous career advancement and the money was better. Now I've lost my sanity and just wish I had my old job back. I kept thinking when the new company took over things would improve down the line. Friday I was hit with the realization that it will never improve, only get worse. I am a good worker, fairly intelligent. My mistake was not finishing college so I could have better choices in this world. I appreciate all the love, help, and kindness here.

[Blitter2014]

Hugs

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