[mirasanchez1321]

Hi! I just want to ask for some advices because clearly i dont have anyone else to talk to who might actually understand me. I have a complete family but i think it is slowly becoming to be a dysfunctional one. Parents tend to quarrel quite often about some stupid things. They were like telling things to me against each other. Of course I dont want to pick a side between them and i am really getting fed up of all these nonsense dramas. Situations like this makes me want to leave them. Another problem I have is that im25 and I dont have a job. I was originally planning of going abroad to study with a friend, but my friend backs out and I am not sure If i can make it alone out therr knowing the weakness I have in me. I dont have a job because I really dont want to be an employee. I just dont like having a fixed schedule. Something like that. Im really confused about the purpose of my life in this world. Im getting old and yet i still dont have plans on what to do with my life. i have a boyfriend and he always tells me that everythings gonna be fine but i dont think so. I know i really have to do something but i dont know what it ia. these cofusions leads me to being more and more depressed. Please help me. Thankyou

[Jamles]

I think that you should try to gain some independence. Your life wont change until you do something about it. If you have a local tech school try going there to see if they offer any thing that interests you, or anything online. Find something that you can comfortably ease
into like a part-time job. Boy, I wish I was 25 again!

[ScorpiosLight]

im 27 and my purpose is just survivin as placid and peacful while doing the things that I as a person feel like doing. your not the only one man. we all in this haze.

[pegasus]

Hello mirasanchez1321, welcome to Psych Central.

I'm wondering if the depression you have is making you feel this way. It is true that in order for things to change, you need to make that first step to get things moving. Motivation tends to get lost though with depression. It does not sound like your home situation helps your mental health at all and really the answer to that would be to move out. You can't move out unless you have a job, so the next step then would be to start looking for a job.

[Hellion]

^Or get SSI if mental health issues prevent you from working and are likely to continue doing so, but if its more of a matter of not wanting to or just don't like it well you might have to choose between that and remaining in your home situation longer. You say you have a boyfriend...have you guys thought about potentially living together? that might be one idea but obviously only if that is something both of you want to otherwise rent can be expensive so having room-mates of some kind might be necessary.

I know too well though that moving out is easier said than done.