[bracken1234]

I am not sure if my 43 yr old bf has a mental illness or not, maybe its just his personality..Anyway here are some of my concerns, He speaks very agressively, cursing at everything and everyone, ALL THE TIME he shouts too.. never speaks in a quiet tone. He talks to himself in the shower and answers himself and yet denies ever doing this, I catch him threatening my dog, which annoys him , and he denies saying anything even when i stood and watched him stand and point at the dog and tell it 'i'm gonna get you" , then denied it and lied and said i was imagining things.... he twists things around to make them my fault all the time, he is extremely good looking, and vain, and constantly announces this.. . He is always 'right' and wants me to do everything his way and continuously explais things to me in massive detail and then repeats himself at least twice.. as if I am 5 yrs old... can anyone tell me if these are signs of something serious? he has an autistic son and I am not sure whether he is somewhat autistic himself??? That or may be he is a psychopath? or just an ***.. He has now moved in with me and my kids and I am a bit worried sometimes......

[Ripose]

There is definitely something not right about him and I would be watchful to make sure he does not have a detrimental effect on your children. I could not even guess what his problem is since he seems like he may have more than one mental health issues going on. I know the chance is probably slim but do you think you could convince him to see a doctor or therapist?
I think you should talk to a therapist as well so you can understand why you let a man like this into your life. Your therapist can also give you advice on how to deal with this man.

Protect yourself and your children!

[Lemon Curd]

I second Ripose.

I would remove my kids, myself, & my dog, as soon as possible.
Handsome or not, he sounds like a very angry sick man.
I definitely think he needs some serious professional help.
Please don't put your family or yourself, in what can probably & easily turn into a domestic violence situation.
You are worthy. Remeber, your children are learning their own self worth by watching you. If you cannot be strong for yourself, please do so for your sweet children. They need to see their mommy in a healthy relationships.
That's just me.
*big warm friendship hug*

[ifst5]

Why are you even with him? You don't sound particularly happy? To be honest it's not really your concern what's wrong with this man - if he's gone 43 years of life without doing anything about it, it shows a distinct lack of responsibility in fact it shows he's lost touch with human reality. Remove what you don't need in your life and find someone worthy of you and your children's trust.

[IceCreamKid]

We cannot diagnose your boyfriend, or anyone else. We can offer emotional support. You deserve better than this. Please don't let that man move in with you and keep him away from your children and your dog. I see you say he has already moved in. Get some support locally (the police, if necessary) and move him right back out.

[bracken1234]

Thank you all for your advice, tbh Iwas thinking all the same things and just needed some verification, I met him when I was at a very low point in my life and at the time he seemed to be my 'knight in shining armour'.. now after 2 years with him, he just seems to be odd and yes, I am unhappy with him if I am honest with myself.. I think my own self esteem is the problem.. my lease is up soon and that will give me the opportunity to move on without him and I am going to seek Therapy. Thanks again for your advice

[marmaduke]

I'm with everyone else, get him out, protect your children and animals.
He sounds a bit like my ex husband who was a narcissist.

Ripose wrote;
I think you should talk to a therapist as well so you can understand why you let a man like this into your life.

This is a good idea, you need to find out why you allowed this person who sounds unstable into your life.

[pegasus]

Hello bracken1234, welcome to Psych Central.

Good advice from all the posters above. I just wanted to add, try not to jump to the conclusion that this is bipolar or any other mental illness. In fact it does not sound like bipolar at all. Mental illnesses tend to make people more sensitive and fearful, what you have described above sounds like an abusive bully. Please heed the advice above and get out.

[Disorder7]

I agree with Pegasus, this doesn't sound like bipolar. One could argue that he was in a mixed state, but it doesn't sound like something he cycles out of. It sounds like it's his personality.

I don't know why you are with him, but it would be interesting for him to fall asleep around me if he had threatened my dog. Just sayin.

[8thstreetbungalow]

Bipolar doesn't cause this behavior. This is a sick man who needs help before something bad happens. A ticking timebomb waiting to explode.

I can only relate to a few of the details above.

[marmaduke]

He doesn't sound bipolar to me either.

I don't know why you are with him, but it would be interesting for him to fall asleep around me if he had threatened my dog. Just sayin.

With you on that one Disorder7

[bracken1234]

Thanks again, you all have very valid points and i appreciate your great advice.