[Jenni855]

To have someone adore your kids and spoil them with presents at special occasions but to not mention them to you or ask how they are despite that person knowing them for years and the kids seeing the person as family? The person in question is also quiet around you and doesn't seem to like you/wants to keep a distance.
This isn't about me just a rhetorical question. What would you think?

[kaliope]

it makes sense to me. because of my mental health issues i have a difficult time connecting to people. they make me really uncomfortable. connecting to my own children even was challenging. i was baffled as to why they stayed in contact after they left home and had to ask why they liked me. so while i am very friendly and caring to kids of friends an even my own grandchildren when i see them for special occasions, they really do not exist for me outside of that time. out of site, out of mind basically.

[Thunder Bow]

This "person" seems a bit creepy. You may want to isolate him from the kids and yourself in the future.

[SnakeCharmer]

It makes sense to me. It can be normal behavior for someone who's an introvert or has some poor social skills. Or even worse, an extrovert with social anxiety. Even people who seem outgoing on the surface can have social anxiety underneath and that causes them to make social blunders.

My goddaughter is that way. She's a lovely, caring person, an extrovert with social anxiety who makes one social blunder after the other, while really caring in her heart. She goofs up all the time and feels the sting of other people's judgment and rejection very deeply. She's working on it, she's much better than she was, but she sounds a lot like the person you described.

Her behavior doesn't mean she's cold or uncaring. It's a indicative of her struggles.