[OblivionIsAtHand]

Why are people so *******ed annoyed by question asking?

And: Is this is a safe place to ask questions? Shame over asking questions is a massive percentage of my depression. While certainly some of my fears of weakness over asking questions could be steeped in irrationality, I'm still not sure. It's a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario. If you ask questions you're sometimes excoriated, but if you don't you're likely to either provide ******** answers or become the blowhard persona that reeks of insecurity and everyone lambasts. There's the middle option of learning stuff yourself, and only by yourself, but I do that to the point where I'm starting to suffer from being such a one-man island caged in my own thoughts all day, suffering silently over the fear of help. Even some psychology forum I went to earlier, I felt the same vibe of judgment (though perhaps irrationally, impending hostility, and dread of putting myself in a position of need, but paradoxically I'm a 'needy' person. I detest the lack of help I've seen lately, and this could be born out of a selfish need, but so be it. This ties in with my larger issue of having flat-out contempt for people, but I hope to save that for later down the line. In short, even my vast amounts of misanthropy are not sufficient enough for the true, nuanced scumbaggery of people lately, and I feel as if I've lost some autonomy due to their manipulative nature. Basically all of my depression feels warranted lately, and in reality it may just be the imbalance talking. But everywhere I go people smack of a '**** you' vibe. I like nobody; not anymore. I fake friendships, but I don't actually care for these people. All of this can be elaborated on later.

Is this a place you can be vocal about your grievances? Speak your mind with little judgment? Is there any problem with posting multiple threads about different problems/questions as opposed to consolidating your problems all into one massive post?

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm sorry you're struggling with all of this.

If it can help, please know that in this forum you won't be judged; instead, you will be accepted for what you are. We're all here to be supported and to give support, so please, feel free to vent or to ask questions. We'll listen.

[OblivionIsAtHand]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm sorry you're struggling with all of this.

If it can help, please know that in this forum you won't be judged; instead, you will be accepted for what you are. We're all here to be supported and to give support, so please, feel free to vent or to ask questions. We'll listen.

I appreciate that very much. And thanks for that very speedy reply Mickey. Also, it's relieving to know that there's at least some refuge out there. I've felt some hostility no matter where I go.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by OblivionIsAtHand

Is this a place you can be vocal about your grievances? Speak your mind with little judgment? Is there any problem with posting multiple threads about different problems/questions as opposed to consolidating your problems all into one massive post?

I think I read somewhere that though this site is in america and we have free speech there is a limit of what can and cant be discussed on the public boards... for example...

grievances are supposed to be taken to the moderators through the pm (private messages) Im guessing because one of the rules is no discussing administrative issues on the public boards.

bottom line is not everyone is going to get along so Im guessing to keep the public boards safe for everyone not only those involved with a problem some things have to be taken care of through private ways and sometimes through the moderators.

if you are having a problem here just click on a moderators name (they are the ones in different colors then everyone else) and they will be able to help you with what ever is going on for you.

[StarGazingFish]

oblivionisathand,
ive always felt the same way about people,but you have to get along with them if you want to exist in society,you dont have to like them though.
this forum is very good ive never been judged for my thoughts here,everyone is mega supportive,like previously explained the only time you would run into trouble is if something you say breaks a rule then you get a moderator or a backseat moderator; moderating you.
just be yourself,im sure you will find various people who relate to you- even though you dont want friendships its cool to know your not the only one i guess.

[leejosepho]

Over these past few days I have been here, nothing so far has indicated any kind of problem with asking questions...and neither do I get the impression people here are trying to offer answers they do not actually have. Also, I have seen some of your posts and found them insightful and refreshing.

[kecanoe]

I have had no problems with asking questions here. And it actually helps to split them into separate threads, that way you will get more appropriate answers

[ABC1357]

I struggle a lot to ask questions in real life. Even if it's my therapist, I'm ashamed or afraid of asking something stupid and being judged. But I do have a lot of questions. I feel safer to ask questions here. I like it's totally anonymous.