[Notimeleft]

I have been involved (significant other living apart) for 28 years. It is so confusing as it seems he just doesn't think or feel like a normal person.

Once again he has hurt me tremendously and I don't want to see him any longer, but I love him so much that it is killing me.

My Daughter takes me on a vacation I would have never been able to afford on my own. Everyone says, why doesn't xxx take you on a nice vacation? Uhhhh ??

My Daughter & Son-in-law drops me off at his house on our way home from the airport and vacation (as he requested). He opens the door to let me in and not one word of being happy to see me, not a hug, nothing, he turns and crawls back in bed. Did it take that much of an effort to welcome me?

The next morning I am greeted with, 'I got you breakfast - McDonalds', then he says, "Oh I received the city business Tax form".. That's the only reason he wanted me there, to do his tax! Yes, I was upset. But then again I thought, that's him.

I was excited about him stating we were going to Hot August Nights and thought it would be fun for the two of us. The next thing I know is he has invited his Daughter, Son and his Son's girlfriend. I'm pretty sure his Son wouldn't go in the first place knowing he couldn't go on his binge drunk for that long!

Taking his Son to Long Beach, I'm sitting in the middle with the air conditioner blowing directly on me. Of course the fins on the unit cannot be adjusted as he has never fixed them. I was freezing!! Then I'm criticized for being cold! The ***** (as his Son called me because I complained about being cold) is getting bigger all in just one day!

When we get back to my boyfriends house, I suggested he call his Son to be sure that they were committed to going to Hot August Nights. (Just because you plan something doesn't mean everyone will or can go for reasons of their own). After speaking with his Son, my boyfriend said because I was such a *****, his Son wasn't going! Now I'm so pissed and in full blown HURT ***** mode that I can't even talk! I asked him to take me home (45 miles) and not a word was spoken.

He calls me two weeks later to tell me that he and his Daughter are going to Hot August Nights and he has asked me to house sit because he didn't want his Son there. Really? Why don't you just come over and kick me in the teeth? You have now made me a VERY HURT ***** and rubbed salt into the wound. He made the excuse using his Son comment of me being a ***** for not taking me.

I've waited to go on vacation with him for YEARS. I've waited for him to retire so we could do some traveling, fishing and just enjoying life for a change. We are much older now, our bodies are breaking down and you never know howmuch longer our lives will be. But NO he has to babysit his worthless self absorbed Son and be sure he is working. He has enabled his problems, made him the way he loves it!


He has never taken anyone else's feelings into consideration, even after all these years. His Son is a user and nothing else. He knows what he is doing and he is letting him. God, he really has balls to ask me to house sit and take his Daughter instead of me to Hot August Nights.

He called and his excuse for not taking me was his Daughter and I don't get along... Thank you very much!

I've have wasted 28 years on him. What a fool I have been as it sure took a lot of being kicked to wake me up. But I put up with him because I love you.

Have your Son stay at your house. They've stay at your house before and you had no objections, his girlfriends Mother being there or not!. I'm not taking a back seat to anyone anymore. You accomplished what you intended and you really hurt me.

I forgive, but I also learned a lesson. I won't hate you, but I'll never get close enough for you to ever hurt me again.

You have no respect for women whatsoever. You treat us like crap and then you wonder why we get *****y?

If you don't like what you are hearing, you refuse to discuss it. No resolve, not Jim Donahue you just slam a door, hang up the phone like a child, shut the person out and say you don't want to talk about it... This is how relationships end.

[Thunder Bow]

I assume you exited all that drama?

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for sharing this, Notimeleft. I used to know a guy who was fond of saying: "If you want to know which way the bullet is going, look down the barrel of the gun." Reading what you've written here illustrates where this relationship is headed. I'm sure it's incredibly difficult to give up on this guy after 28 years. But, at least from my perspective, that's probably the way to go. I wish you well...

[Notimeleft]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

I assume you exited all that drama?

Drama is a minor description for it. Thank you for your response. I no longer go to see him or go to his home, but he calls every night. I'm edging away slowly and 'yes' you are right, I should just exit, but good Lord my heart and soul hurt. Once again, thank you for your reply.

[Notimeleft]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Thanks for sharing this, Notimeleft. I used to know a guy who was fond of saying: "If you want to know which way the bullet is going, look down the barrel of the gun." Reading what you've written here illustrates where this relationship is headed. I'm sure it's incredibly difficult to give up on this guy after 28 years. But, at least from my perspective, that's probably the way to go. I wish you well...

Yes, I know. But it's like cutting off a piece of your body. He has been in my life for so long it's hard to throw him away. I know I have to. So many have said, why are you staying with him? I feel like a fool, but I suppose I'd rather feel like a fool and be a lost soul. When I let go of him completely, I will never enter into another relationship. Too hard and my youth has gone now and have wasted it on someone that just doesn't care, they only care about themselves.
Thank you kindly Skeezyks.. Bless you.

[Erebos]

I hope you have found the strength and resolve you need to do what needs to be done, for yourself. You've made a home , and aided your kids and now it's time for you to regain some control in your life.

All the best for your future.

[MickeyCheeky]

Hope you'll be able to move on.. keep moving forward, and good luck.