[buttman]

its really complicated so i'll just try and simplify it

my mum gets a carers premium for caring for me but she doesn't actually care for me anymore, i don't want to stop her from getting this premium because there is no gain in that but it is annoying that she is getting it and all i get is a cup of tea and a roll and bacon and egg every Sunday, plus i help her more than she helps me now,

she will fall out with me if i stop it and i don't want to do that.

Well, i'm in the US and had to look this up...so ignore my questions if you want..

I see that you have to receive some sort of government benefit also. So you're probably less bothered about the amount she gets and more about the fact that she doesn't have a right to what she's receiving.

What's your living situation? Does she own a house or are you sharing rent of some kind? Do you buy your own groceries?

Not meaning to grill you or anything, but having adult kids living in my own house, "caring" is just a small part of the equation (for me). There's food, electricity, water, wear and tear on the household things.....which can be offset by non-workers doing their fair share and it sounds as if you do.

It's a tough situation being dependent on someone else and having someone dependent on you. Neither party likes it.

Is it possible for you to get out on your own soon? Or to make plans to?

[buttman]

thanks for taking an interest in my post,

i live alone now and my mum lives alone too, she is registered deaf/blind but can see/hear enough just now, she also needs guides to take her out and me sometimes as well.

i was staying there when i signed to allow it to happen and i don't think i totally realised what i was doing,

but now its bothering me bc i added it all up over the course of 5 years and it is a lot of money and my mum is barely able to care for herself never mind me,
i just feel like my mum is getting money bc of me and i don't get anything, doesn't seem fair and if i mention it i am always made out to be some kind of idiot.

i get benefits as well bc i have schizophrenia.

To me, any money is a lot of money....and being ethical does NOT mean you're an idiot AT ALL. It means you're a good person and you managed that regardless of your upbringing...

I hear what you're saying and I understand. But she's not really being honest is she?

So....I guess that you can either call her on it, or you can let it go.

I wish I had some words of wisdom, here. Truth is, in your situation, I don't know what I would do...

[Sunflower123]

Do you think you'd feel better if you straightened this out? You wouldn't have to get her into trouble...you could just adjust the date you moved out and adjust the application so she quits getting a check. I think it will get unpleasant if she gets caught. I wish you the best.