[JustAnUntakenName]

I am interested in how others deal with intense emotions; when you experience an intense emotion how do you resolve it? Not just avoid it - 'cause avoidance and suppression is bad m'kay - but actually resolve it, so that it goes away and never comes back to haunt you again.

How do you go about resolving:
Intense sadness - Despair;
Hatred;
Rage;
Fear & Terror;
and Jealousy;

I understand sharing personal information is not pleasant, but I will authentically appreciate help, because maybe whatever you do can be applied to me as well.

Thank you for your time.

[Thunder Bow]

There is no quick fix for those emotions. If they overwhelm you, work with a therapist about them. It takes time to heal.

[pegasus]

Work out where those intense feelings are originally coming from. Working out the trigger. Is it trauma from the past that is now coming into the here and now? Yes working with a therapist you trust is a good idea. Remember that feelings are valid, emotions are what they are, allow yourself to feel, grieve, cry etc. Psychotherapy would be very helpful for you.

[CelestialFlame]

I shove it into a corner and lock it away. Thats avoidance im pretty sure lol but i consider it a problem taken care of.

[TishaBuv]

Feel them, talk about them, try to find healthy ways to cope with those feelings. It depends why you are feeling them. Do they need to take action on? Sometimes you do have to do something more to handle the emotions, like if someone did you wrong, maybe you have to take legal action and set it right.

DBT therapy. If you want to look into it on YouTube, DBT Peer Connections is a free way to learn about it.

Originally Posted by key tones

DBT therapy. If you want to look into it on YouTube, DBT Peer Connections is a free way to learn about it.

Thanks Key Tones. I'm interested in DBT too, and looked it up on youtube.

Hi Starry! You are welcome

[tayannesullivan]

Honestly... it depends on the emotion. If I'm angry, stressed, frustrated or something else along that line I'll go to the gym and work out. Exercise has been the one of the only ways that I can deal with my more harsh feelings. But also writing helps. Just journal whatever you're thinking, feeling, etc. It doesn't even have to make sense you can jump around from one emotion to another, it's what your feeling in that moment. But I promise both of these work. :

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by key tones

DBT therapy. If you want to look into it on YouTube, DBT Peer Connections is a free way to learn about it.

Thanks key tones

[healingme4me]

One thing I've learned is to sit with the physical feeling. I forget precisely where I learned that, maybe a CBT workbook, but certain physical pangs relate to an emotion. For instance a sinking feeling in my gut is dread. I haven't felt dread in years but it's been rearing itself again. I'm dreading a place. Then I ask what is it about the place. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. Have I felt this before, I need to ask. And the internal questioning continues on until I make a step by step gameplan. Baby steps of course. It's like that for me.
Intensity can come from a root place from childhood. Learning what that is helps.
It takes time. Be gentle with yourself.

[JustAnUntakenName]

DBT has not worked, that is why I'm asking what the solutions individuals have found.