Have you ever felt you brought on some of your problems on yourself?

I know the thing about victim-blaming it's not socially acceptable for obvious reasons because nobody who's not sadistic wants to make others feel revictimized. At the same time however, it's true that I did bring on a lot of my mistreatment on myself because of my attention-seeking. It's an honest fact TBH. Yeah, I did not deserve it, but also all of it was really an overblown reaction to my attention-seeking.

To be honest, no. If anything, I hide my problems, even big ones, from people. And I've always worked extremely hard on myself and my mental health. So hard in fact, that I become anxious from it.
My question to you is this: Is it possible that your attention-seeking behavior comes from problems you've borne in your life? Maybe attention-seeking is the way you've coped.

It's OK to feel that way. You've probably never really 'believed' the love from seeking attention from people close to you.

How is the human desire for interaction your fault. If it is your fault, then we are all to blame...

At one or two points in your childhood, seeking attention felt comfortable and the rewards made you feel validated.

I'm sorry if that makes no sense.

I mean, a lot of the time I was mistreated, it was because I said something that I knew in the corner of my mind would possibly get me in trouble but I either ignored the flash of insight in my mind or was too impulsive to stop myself. Just because it wasn't my fault doesn't mean that I didn't bring it on myself.

The choices I have made have many times created the environment where problems happen. Over the many years if my life I am learning to wise mind my choices & not just jump into action but think things through & KNOW that my choice is the best possible ones. There will ALWAYS be problems.....that is just a part of life. Minimizing them as much as possible by making wise choices should be one's goal

There's certainly been times in my life where certain mistakes and missteps have had their share of consequence.

At the same time, my MH is most certainly not because of anything myself or anyone else has caused.

If your attention seeking and impulsivities are wreaking havoc in your life, what steps are you taking to address these?

I have a family member whom, though I can intellectually comprehend what's making her tic and toc, I'm also beyond frustrated by her means of behavior and I can observe that she is, indeed, causing her own self destruction, so to speak.

Lol....I was married to one on those kind of people.....I am now in a law suit against him on top of the divorce because if his choices.

All we can do is learn and change. If you see that you are fueling the fire and don’t like the repercussions, then try to not start things anymore.

Yes, I always take the blame when it is me who is the root cause of my problems. But sometimes, still, it’s honestly good intentions or just raw emotions that is behind it on my part.

Yes, I did things that caused me problems. I married a man who did not care about me and absolutely ruined my life for awhile. I also did many things in the past to hurt my situation without really knowing it- this was before I was diagnosed. Now, I try to be careful about my decisions and ask for advice before doing anything because I know now after all I have experienced that I am impaired and my judgment is poor.

I'm sure I bring some of my problems on myself, and a lot of feelings and actions I make are due to this stupid disorder. I can sometimes see what my actions are doing, but I have such a hard time stopping while in motion.

Gosh, I think that most people are just too hard on themselves

Definitely. My disorder I didn't know I had is why I am divorced, the voices told me to divorce and he readily agreed. I of course am stuck picking up the pieces but not much I can do it's been 13 years. And when I tried to retracked it back than he wouldn't too many problems he said. However the voices helped me write songs so maybe they'll bring some good into my life. Though I have always been creative they pushed me to be more so. I feel the disorder pushes me to achieve my dreams. So I don't hate it as much as I used to.

I feel like some things I’ve brouht on myself. Maybe if I had taken care of my hygiene when I first started having trouble. It wouldn’t have started the teasing in my senior year of high school. I also was gaining massive amounts of weight, and I wore clothes that were too small too short and had cartoon characters on them. If I had dressed according to my weight and my age, I think the teasing wouldn’t have been as bad. I ended up changing my life a couple years ago since I was unhappy. I lost the weight, I wear North Face, Under Armour, Columbia and I take a long shower everyday. I did something so I don’t feel quite as bad anymore.

I don’t feel like everything was all my fault, but there was stuff I should have done right at the start.

Yes. I recently tried kindness to someone who is a complete, annoying, screwed up mess. lies constantly. That is what one gets for being ice. I have learned that lesson over and over in life, but I guess I needed one more lesson.

Yeah, I DO blame myself at times.

perhaps if I was brave enough (and left my parents a little earlier than I did), I wouldn't have been abused so much in a physical sense

saying that though they made it impossible to leave and I have been abused in other places, so I don't know.

I guess one of the things I do as well is dwell on stuff

so hard for me to move forward when I've been hurt (even if it's something small)

I guess that never helps the situation.. knowing that the past is the past, but you still bring it up and make a big thing out of it

I guess I'm sort of responsible for not really learning much at school

yes I was really ill, yess I was in hospital a lot, and yes, my school finally wouldn't take me back because I'd missed so much

but when I had the chance (or rather, when I was able to), I decided I didn't want to learn, I didn't want to do anything

that's no one's fault but my own

I don't regret it

perhaps I used to, when my life maybe meant something, but now I don't care

I was very foolish for my age.

guess I still am

Wisdom is knowing when the blame is valid & when it's not. Never taking responsibility for one's own actions is just as wrong as taking the blame for everything.