[jbug]

I went back and saw Dr. Baker (my surgeon) on Friday and he said I have to stay with my parents one more month. He said old habits die hard he was worried I would start smoking again if I went home. I think he is smart because that is something I was concerned about too but I am working with Dr. M about that. I guess I just have more time to work on that.

He wasn't real happy with the way home health had done my bandage. I guess they had overlapped on my skin and they way my wound vac works you can't overlap on the skin so he was angry at my home health nurse. My mom felt bad because she felt guilty because she said she wasn't in the room when the nurse was doing my bandage. My mom and I have the same problem of people pleasing. I never realized how much alike we were in that area until Friday. They said I am healing well though and I am hoping that by the time I go back in June maybe I will be able to get rid of
my wound vac.

On my right foot my big toe kept getting ingrown and this time it was infected. I pressed down on where it was ingrown and some puss came out so back to the doctor I went. I was already on an antibiotic so that was a good thing but he did a minor procedure where he took part of toe nail off all the way down to the cuticle and into it so it won't grow back. I don't know why but for some reason it hurt worse on this toe that it did on my left foot and he only did one side this time. I ended up having to call him and get some stronger pain meds than I had on hand. So I felt like a wimp, I even considered going back on my crutches for a short time. I decided against that though because it is such a hassle being on those. It hurts to walk on it for long periods of time so I try to limit my walks to short walks.

For mother's day I am cooking my mom supper. It is kind of hard to surprise my mom with a gift if she has to take me to the store and plus I think she would appreciate this more anyway. So Monday is her meal. I am making Chicken Kiev, 7 layer salad and garlic parmesan cresent rolls. The Chicken kiev comes already made all you have to do is put it in the oven. We got some last week to try it out on dad to make sure he would like it and he said he did so we went back to Aldi's and got some more. I think I have mom sold on Aldi's their stuff is so cheap and for the most part good quality. The 7 layer salad is a favorite spring salad of ours it has lettuce, peas, cheese, hard boiled eggs and a mayo type dressing. The cresent rolls are very easy you just take the cresent rolls in the tube and roll them out and put butter on them and sprinkle parmesan cheese and garlic seasoning on them. Then you separate them and bake according to directions. They are a favorite in our family also. W try to keep the stuff for those on hand. My dad's birthday is the day after Mother's day so I told him instead of buying him a gift that I would make him any dessert he wanted and he chose suicide chocolate cake so that is what he is getting. I finally found the recipe that sounds close enough to what he told me it is. To me it sounds like a tummy ache waiting to happen so bring on the tums.

Jan

I am happy that overall things are getting done and healing, Jan. Maybe soon all this will be behind you.

[splitimage]

I'm happy that you are healling, and what you're making for your parents sounds nice. I'm sure you're looking forward to going home, so hopefully you'll be able to in a month. In the meantime concentrate on getting healthy.

Can you post the recipe for the chocolate cake? It sounds really decadent, and something I'd like to have on hand for special occassions.

--splitimage

[ECHOES]

Jbug, thanks for the update. That 7 layer salad is sooo good! Boy your mom is going to love having dinner cooked. That's so sweet of you.

I'm glad to hear you are healing and I hope the bumps in the road are minor ones.

Have you given thought to how you will live in your old familiar surroundings without your old familiar habit of smoking? It sounds like you're doing great and I'm glad you'll have another month smoke-free before you go back to your place.

How is Tyger doing?

[jbug]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

Jbug, thanks for the update. That 7 layer salad is sooo good! Boy your mom is going to love having dinner cooked. That's so sweet of you.

I'm glad to hear you are healing and I hope the bumps in the road are minor ones.

Have you given thought to how you will live in your old familiar surroundings without your old familiar habit of smoking? It sounds like you're doing great and I'm glad you'll have another month smoke-free before you go back to your place.

How is Tyger doing?

Tyger is doing well. He got in trouble last night though. Mom and I were in bed asleep and I thought Tyger was in bed with me but he was up begging for my dad to let him go outside but my dad was ignoring him so he got up next to him on the desk and knocked over the glass of water that was on the desk and shorted out the mouse that was on the desk. He got a few swats for that. Dad said he just slunk off into my room and went to bed. At least Dad can laugh about it now but he was angry at the time. I guess the new rule should be only covered drinks near the computer LOL. Tyger goes on my daily walks with me. I walk up and down my parents street and he follows me. I think Tyger thinks he is part puppy.

Jan

[Junerain]

I know you had surgery to lose weight, & gain confidence...how are these things coming along? I am truly rooting for ya girl!!!

[jbug]

I got in trouble this morning from my dad because he said that developing good habits means getting up in the morning at a decent hour. I was still in bed at 10:30 because I had a migrane and it is easier for me to deal with my migranes if I am in bed room dark and me asleep. Guess he doesn't get it. So I had to get up. I got up showered, got dressed and ate breakfast. Surprisingly it stayed down. I took my headache meds and have been dealing with them medically. I am still quite cranky though.

I also got a lecture that I am getting some good habits such as my eating better and not smoking but that I need to be building better habits such as walking several times a day so that eventually I am able to walk a mile. I want to be able to walk in the Susan G. Komen Walk for the Cure next year and the fun walk is a 1K fun walk. My dad says 1K is about a mile. So I figure if I able to walk a mile in a reasonable time I will do it. So it is true that I do need to walk more than I am doing but don't harp me about it. I am an adult I know what I need to do don't treat me like a child and tell me over and over what needs to be done. I heard you the first time.

I am so ready to go home. If I get told what to do one more time the next person is gonna get it. I mean if it is something reasonable like Jan can you please go make your bed I will go make my bed even though I don't see the purpose of making your bed when you are just going to get in it and mess up anyway. But anyway if it is something simple like that and it is asked kindly I'll do it but when it delivered in the tone it was today about me walking more makes me want to walk less just to show them.

Jan

(((((jbug))))) You'll heal faster if you don't let stress in. Try to ignore that they are treating you like a child--they mean well, I'm sure--but it still upsets you, and i understand that it would.

I understand that it must be difficult living at home with your parents telling you what to do; but it'll be over soon, and you'll be back home----
Here's to stress free healing!!!----((((((Tyger)))))) theo

[Junerain]

(((((((((((((jbug)))))))))))))

My parents treat me the same way, too.............

Well; that's the thing about parents---I'm guilty as charged.

I still want to make my 32 and 33 year olds lives easier by telling them what is good for them and all that..but it is no longer my place. They are adults now, with children of their own.

It's hard to let go of your memories of them as mere babes, needing you for everything "Oven Hot!"--but they often have to find everything out for themselves.

My kids took off a flew away along time ago: I raised them to do just that.

Time for me now---hugs, Theo