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#1
Oct 15, 2010, 10:39 PM
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Late this afternoon, my case worker called me and told me they were issuing my foster parent license either today or Monday!!! So I am freaking out with all the preparations that I have to make before the little girl comes walking through our door. It can be at any age from infant up through an 8 year old. I am thinking it will be infant to 3 years old, it is just a hunch I have. So I need a crib, and a car seat for a toddler, and then clothes, a stroller, etc. All of a sudden I am energized, excited, and pacing the floor waiting!!! LOL...well not pacing, but can't seem to settle and be grounded. There is just too much to think about. Please know that it doesn't mean I will be here less, but it will be more strategically timed.
Talk with you all soon!!! Jewels   soon to be foster parent of a girl!!!
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#2
Oct 15, 2010, 10:48 PM
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CONGRATULATIONS!!!! That's wonderful!!
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#3
Oct 15, 2010, 10:50 PM
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Yay!! Enjoy...and good luck. And remember not everything has to be purchased new lol. The general guidelines are a carseat less than 6 years old that's never been in an accident (I'd buy new). And for a crib the slats have to be close enough together that you can't put a coke can through them. It also should not have a dropside (although that can easily be fixed with a drill and 4 long screws). As for clothes ask all your friends for hand-me-downs. They're awesome! I actually have all those items and no child. Leftovers from babysitting...amusing I suppose. Good luck!
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Oct 16, 2010, 12:48 AM
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Jewels how wonderful!! I'm very happy for you (and a bit jealous too) What a great thing for you and the lucky little girl!
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Oct 16, 2010, 02:33 AM
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Congrats! Wow! How exciting! and Nerve Wracking, I'll bet! Just remember, we're here if it get's too wacky! Gee, t's likeexpecting again in rapid time! HUGGGS!
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Oct 16, 2010, 06:07 AM
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What a wonderful thing you are doing. Congratulations.
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Oct 16, 2010, 07:15 AM
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((((((((((((((( Jewels )))))))))))))))
WOW WOW WOW !!!!  I am so excited for you, but for now just slow down write a list of all you need and plan how you will go about getting it all.I am sure that it will be an amazing experience for both you and the little girl on her way to you. She will be a very lucky little girl to be surrounded by love care and compassion while she is in your care. Remember we are here and if you feel a little overwhelmed at times there are plenty of us here to support you along the way. Take care of you too and remember to rest as wellmuch love and excitement to you all what an amazing way to really make a difference SAS xx
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Oct 16, 2010, 07:34 AM
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aaah {{{{{{ Jewels~!}}}}}}} What they all said,, Doubled~! I'm sure you're gonna make some little girl's life bearable again. Thanks for lifting up the world, one child at a time~~~ Gus
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Oct 16, 2010, 09:39 AM
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That is great Jewels.
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#10
Oct 16, 2010, 09:43 AM
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Thank you so much for doing this.
My child is in foster care, voluntarily! I was in no shape mentally and physically to care for a child. Thats the only caution I have - remember in cases where abuse is not the issue, it is not always that the parents are horrible people - especially in the case of young parents - it may be simply that they are not ready or not medically ok enought o care for them and have made this choice willingly. Your first and main priority is of course to love the child - but I know sadly i was poisoned even worse to my parents at times by foster mothers and have seen it happen elsewhere(in my case, it was warranted as I was being abused, but have seen other cases where thats not true). and I just pray that my little boys foster mother understands that I didnt just give up - i knew i was ill and would be for some time and wasnt doing the best job i could. I am just glad there are people like you
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Oct 16, 2010, 10:36 AM
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congrats! my husband and I went thru the classes but decided not to go thru with it. they wanted us to have teens because we were older. good luck and I hope you get the child of your dreams!
advise here...yard sales! no need in buying brand new stuff! most is in pretty good shape too!
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#12
Oct 19, 2010, 10:50 PM
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Jewels, How's being a foster parent going? Were you right?
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Oct 19, 2010, 11:39 PM
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well, i'm right that it is a little little girl...just don't know HOW little she is yet...I keep getting the feeling that I will be called in the middle of the night and will have to go off and get her...I carry my phone around the house with me...like if I didn't I would miss the call and be denied a little one right now in my house...
I am getting a crib on Saturday, and a playpen tomorrow evening and going to St Vincent DePaul shop to get some baby things...all you can get into a plastic bag for $3. Not bad, since I need everything!!! And then I will need other sizes too...just to have on hand...but I am thinking I should go and put the base to the car seat in the car to make sure it is in before the time arrives and then I would be late... I am scared, nervous, excited, anxious, worried, ecstatic, and simply frazzled...LOL...seems to be the words of the hour right now...my worker told me to be prepared...and I am doing the best I know how to keep things to a dull roar... sigh...what an experience...getting ready for a wee one who is going to wow us right from the beginning...I don't know how old she will be...somewhere between an infant and 7, but more probably less than 5 years old...maybe old enough for a toddler bed...but I don't think so...I still get the sense it will be the middle of the night to come and get the child...there will be no greater bliss than to have a child if only for a little while... wow...am i ever on call!!! and when I get her I will hold her tight and let her know she is safe...very strange to be in a holding pattern right now...but it may happen at any second now...so off to bed I go...not knowing when I will be awakened...maybe tonight...maybe tomorrow night...but I am going to get the car seat ready... thanks for checking in everyone...and for your encouragement!!! Jewels
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Oct 20, 2010, 12:45 AM
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Breathe! And if you're worried about her being ready for a toddler bed and not needing a crib buy one of the ones that converts from a crib to a toddler bed...then you're ready. Enjoy shopping tomorrow! Remember to be excited... and remember she might not be at first (if she's old enough to know what's happening). But regardless I'm hoping for the best for you both. Keep us updated!
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Oct 20, 2010, 02:06 AM
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Greetings,
Congratulations!!!! You are truly inspiring! Have a good one.
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Oct 20, 2010, 07:23 AM
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Thinking about you Jewels
You are doing a wonderful thing! Keep up posted of any updates.
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It is a miracle that I have survived thus far and I strive to help others see miracles in every day life.
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Oct 20, 2010, 08:00 AM
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great news, jewels!! what a wonderful offering to little ones who need a loving home.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand |
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Oct 20, 2010, 09:21 AM
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That's wonderful Jewels and thank you for doing this for a child. I pray you can make a difference in this girls life.
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Oct 20, 2010, 10:21 AM
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Congratulations Jewels, and good luck, that's very very exciting! I hope you and your new daughter have a fantastic time growing together
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Oct 20, 2010, 11:40 AM
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My husband and I have been trying for a child for over three years now with no success. I wanted to become a foster parent but I was discourage by my mother in-law and a few friends. Apparently having depression meant that I could/ should not care for a child. This made me feel even worst. But I am glad to know that there are people like you out there who are strong enough to show others they are wrong. Thank you, you give me hope!
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Oct 21, 2010, 06:34 AM
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Jewels the children could not be in more loving or safe hands. Bless you sweet one for this loving contribution to children and your community, you are a wonderful example
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