[LiteraryLark]

I was planning on hanging out with my gay friend today and when he picked me up we had no idea what to do because I didn't have any money, so he dropped me off at home after only an hour. It was really awkward and embarrassing because I was waiting to hang out with him for two days and then we ended up not doing anything... =/

He's someone who likes to be out and about, so what could we do for free?

[CastlesInTheAir]

If its warm out there is plenty to do...otherwise maybe a museum or arcade if u have spare change window shop go to a bar with no cover and drink water and wait for someone to buy you a drink drive around and ******** find a party to go to blah blah blah

-Trish
"Don't curse the rain, without it things don't grow. Instead find the beauty in it."

there are usually tons of free or low cost things listed in the papers for the weekends...depends on what you enjoy doing...museums, parks, etc...check the papers...

just find a good spot & people watch...

[LiteraryLark]

generally things we could do at night...

still plenty of offerings...be flexible..lots out there that don't involve clubbing, raves etc. but of course if that is all you limit yourself too without the $$ it will be tough.

You could walk around someplace nice like a park or outdoor mall. Maybe bring a camera and take pictures of the sunset and scenery. If your phone has GPS then you can geocache which a wide variety of people enjoy. Spend some time in a bookstore (or library) looking at books and magazines. Sneaking into a hotel pool and/or hot tub is fun too.

doesn't really matter much also if it's a gay guy, lesbian, someone straight...i would imagine since i am not a gay guy or a straight guy for that matter that they (& i hate sweeping generalizations) pretty much enjoy many of the things suggested. can't really see why the distinction was originally made...a good friend is a good friend. regardless of sex, orientation etc. (on both parties)

[thickntired]

Yes, I like the park / photography idea. Maybe you could raise enough bucks for a simple picnic lunch.

[lynn P.]

If I were gay, this would bother me. A person can do the same things they would do with a straight (non romantic) guy.

[lizardlady]

Thanks Lynn and Stumpy for pointing out it doesn't matter what the person's sexual orientation has to do with what two friends do for fun.

To theoriginal poster... there's tons of stuff to do that doesn't cost anything. Go somewhere and people watch. You said night time activities... go wander an indoor mall. Doesn't cost a penny to look in windows. Go for a walk in a safe neighborhood. Stay inside and play board games or cards. Depends on where you live maybe wander through an art gallery or museum.

[LiteraryLark]

He just wants to party. Drink, sex, party. He dropped me off at home so he could go hot tubbing and drink champagne with his friends that invited him while we were hanging out.

well since you knew you had no $$ you probably should have canceled prior to the evening...especially since you were aware of what his plans would have included.

just out of curiosity..why did you include "gay guy" in the post title?

[LiteraryLark]

Well my friends are all poor so we get along just fine without money, I didn't know he wanted to party until after he picked me up.

I don't want to start another riot about why they are all the same, at least amongst my circle of gay friends. They just are.

[LiteraryLark]

or maybe since I have so few straight friends I have stereotyped them as boring partypoopers.

I don't want to start another riot about why they are all the same, at least amongst my circle of gay friends. They just are.

wow...sorry not being in your circle of gay friends i find this kind of generalizations kind of rude & disturbing actually. again pardon my ignorance, but just what makes them "all the same?"

seriously, not trying to start something but consider me ignorant. please enlighten me...can you do so in such a manner as to not engage your circle of gay friends.

[LiteraryLark]

Adding "gay friend" was completely irrelevant. I just put it because my friend is in fact gay. There was no extra meaning to it until you asked.

If I answer then I know it will cause the conversation go off topic, and I don't want that to happen again.

[CastlesInTheAir]

Bah! Why argue darnit! This is a happy place! Everybody hug right now!

-Trish
"Don't curse the rain, without it things don't grow. Instead find the beauty in it."

[LiteraryLark]

haha thanks

arguing? no not arguing..it just seemed like a rather odd way to pose a question...like saying "what can i do for free with a with a woman?, black male, asian, , jew, american indian, lesbian, etc.

i just had never heard the question posed in this fashion, found it rather profiling & was just curious as to why the poster just didn't say "what can i do for free with my friend?" rather than specifically stating "gay guy friend."

[CastlesInTheAir]

Yes I know but most people do that so it isn't really that odd. So this blonde....so this black guy....so this tall guy...so this white chick...so I imagine some gay people might say so this straight guy I know...or what have you most people don't even realize they do it...it could've been profiling or she could just be happy and proud to be hanging with her gay friend....she could've just said friend but then this thread might have fewer comments.....

-Trish
"Don't curse the rain, without it things don't grow. Instead find the beauty in it."

[gma45]

Since your friend just likes to party,drink,sex and party There wasn't much you could have done if you did not want to do those things. Find someone else to hang with that can do something different without costing anything. There is many things to do just like everyone else posted. This is probably no help, sorry. Hope you enjoy your time regardless.

[LiteraryLark]

I just have to get money, then we can hangout...i just have to stereotype people by what people enjoy doing...the people who enjoy movie nights go in this category, the people who like to go shopping go in this category, the people who like to go to the beach, the mall, the city, go drinking, having sex, etc...

[LiteraryLark]

...cuz it would be pointless to take someone ice skating if they hate going.

i just have to stereotype people by what people enjoy doing...the people who enjoy movie nights go in this category, the people who like to go shopping go in this category, the people who like to go to the beach, the mall, the city, go drinking, having sex, etc...

so i guess it wasn't just a completely irrelevant label huh?you asked for suggestions people offered them up..you shot them down..when i asked about why the label you got all huffy...i was just curious...it seems you might have had ulterior motives as to what your plans would have included...

i just wanted to know why the stereotype in the post question.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by stumpy

i just have to stereotype people by what people enjoy doing...the people who enjoy movie nights go in this category, the people who like to go shopping go in this category, the people who like to go to the beach, the mall, the city, go drinking, having sex, etc...

so i guess it wasn't just a completely irrelevant label huh?you asked for suggestions people offered them up..you shot them down..when i asked about why the label you got all huffy...i was just curious...it seems you might have had ulterior motives as to what your plans would have included...

i just wanted to know why the stereotype in the post question.

I didn't shoot them down in the slightest. I didn't say they were dumb ideas or that they weren't useful. I believe it was you who got all huffy with the stereotype and I wanted to avoid causing a riot and making a mountain out of a molehill.

So again, there was no ulterior motive with the stereotype. I didn't think when I said it. Gay guy, black guy, asian guy, deaf guy...does it matter?