I'm bald, I have a big nose, two chins, crooked teeth, a pot belly, and I smell.

daymare · Apr 08, 2012 at 03:27 AM

I am sorry you feel this way. There is no way we can all transform into super models, but there are a few things we can do.

Bald? Shave your head. Many women think it's hot. Some of the hottest men I ever dated had shaved heads.

Stink? Okay... thats not a hard one. You can bathe and clean up. Brush your teeth. Don't forget behind your ears. Turn it into a routine that helps you wake up in the morning. Nothing is better than a hot shower.

Fat? Who cares. Most people are.

I think if you take those steps above, and try to find a way to develop a nicer attitude towards people your life will change 100%... if you can't be funny, be kind.

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 03:48 AM

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With your sense of humor, you should be able to do okay with the ladies. It's important to always take care of the basics whether looking to date or married: regular haircut, trimmed nails, shower daily, teeth brushed twice a day. These details matter. Your sense of humor should pay off too. Hang around the butcher's and maybe you'll meat a lady who likes sausages of all varieties . . .

My sense of humour usually gets me into trouble, and my love of sausages is prolly responsible for my pot belly. A sausage loving lady who's bald, has a big nose, two chins, crooked teeth, and pot belly are not always easy to find, but I'm not going to give up trying.

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You forgot to add to your list that you're intelligent & sensible (both evident in your posts here) and have a sense of humor (I use your update to indicate that: He who feared he would not succeed sat still.)

Intelligence, common sense, and humor trump all the negatives--the baldness, big nose, two chins, crooked teeth, and pot belly.

But the smell ... I suspect a lot of people might have a problem with the smell. And don't blame the sausage.

*swoons" ...I'm not sure if I can cope with all the compliments, and the smell of fried sausage in the morning is to me like the scent of a rose to most people.

I've cut down on the sausage and egg breakfasts and have been eating a lot of all-bran and fresh fruit recently, ...I've also been forcing myself to go out jogging.

It's not pleasant, but to stay alive no-one ever said that life would be easy.

Enjoy your Easter day, PsychCentralists, and go easy on the chocolate eggs.

likewater · Apr 08, 2012 at 08:30 AM

Ok i'll go easy on the eggs and eat a gynormous chocolate bunny. I hope he'z not hollow.

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 08:51 AM

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It's no ****ing wonder no woman wants to know me and that I am destined to be forever alone. If I was someone else I wouldn't want to date me. My attitude is mostly sardonic; if anyone speaks to me I think they must be either insane, desperate for attention from anyone, or attempting to take the piss. I really have to push myself hard to work, take any form of physical exercise, and my personal hygiene sucks very large ****. I tend to perceive most people as contrived and phony, and I really don't think this is a delusion. I tend to keep people at a distance, as I really don't like the great majority of people.

I guess I'm a bald, fat, misanthrope whose only friend is food.

I don't love people, but I do love sausages.

How many women have you asked out on a date in the last year?

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by bipolarmedstudent

How many women have you asked out on a date in the last year?

None.

I have eaten quite a lot of sausages to compensate though.

unaluna · Apr 08, 2012 at 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

None. I have eaten quite a lot of sausages to compensate though.

Cough! (gay) cough!

Not that there's anything wrong with that...

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

None.

I have eaten quite a lot of sausages to compensate though.

Well, how do you expect to date if you won't ask anyone out?

You can't complain that no woman will have you if you never even approach any women. That's ridiculous. It's like complaining about why you don't have a job when you haven't sent your resume anywhere.

Hell, I'm a young, attractive woman in her early 20s, with big tits and a skinny waist, and I still had to use online dating and make a real effort in order to find a boyfriend. Relationships don't just fall into your lap. You have to approach people to find one.

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by hankster

Cough! (gay) cough!

Not that there's anything wrong with that...

I suppose I set myself up for that.

No, I'm not gay, and I won't report you for homophobia.

Or racism.

For the benefit of the chronically humourless, this was a humorous comment (at least to me), and is not supposed to be taken seriously.

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Well, how do you expect to date if you won't ask anyone out?

You can't complain that no woman will have you if you never even approach any women. That's ridiculous. It's like complaining about why you don't have a job when you haven't sent your resume anywhere.

Hell, I'm a young, attractive woman in her early 20s, with big tits and a skinny waist, and I still had to use online dating and make a real effort in order to find a boyfriend. Relationships don't just fall into your lap. You have to approach people to find one.

I had a brief relationship with a girl just over a year ago. I knew she was a bit suspect from the outset, had many problems, and was a huge gamble. I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt, only to discover that she was a phony and deceitful person who was attempting to use me as a stepping stone.

I'll spare the details, suffice to say it has knocked my confidence, as even though I knew she was a huge gamble, she played the "nice girl" very convincingly, and for a short time I think I may have fallen for her.

Painful experience, and one which I have no desire to repeat.

Btw, I think large breasts are beautiful. I would like to say more on this subject as I've been a big tit fan all my life, but have been advised that crude, vulgar, sexual comments are not suitable for this site.

carrie_ann · Apr 08, 2012 at 10:25 AM

[QUOTE=Serotonin;2308541 A sausage loving lady who's bald, has a big nose, two chins, crooked teeth, and pot belly are not always easy to find, but I'm not going to give up trying.
[/QUOTE]

you've seen my picture!

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

I had a brief relationship with a girl just over a year ago. I knew she was a bit suspect from the outset, had many problems, and was a huge gamble. I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt, only to discover that she was a phony and deceitful person who was attempting to use me as a stepping stone.

I'll spare the details, suffice to say it has knocked my confidence, as even though I knew she was a huge gamble, she played the "nice girl" very convincingly, and for a short time I think I may have fallen for her.

Painful experience, and one which I have no desire to repeat.

You need to use common sense when dating. If you rate yourself a '5' and suddenly this gorgeous supermodel of a woman is all over you, you need to ask yourself what's going on. Generally people date others who are at a similar level of attractiveness as themselves. There are exceptions, of course. But trust your gut. If something seems 'too good to be true' it probably is.

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by bipolarmedstudent

You need to use common sense when dating. If you rate yourself a '5' and suddenly this gorgeous supermodel of a woman is all over you, you need to ask yourself what's going on. Generally people date others who are at a similar level of attractiveness as themselves. There are exceptions, of course. But trust your gut. If something seems 'too good to be true' it probably is.

I'm a very firm believer in trusting one's intuition and going with one's instincts, and I'll be honest; my intuition and instincts were telling me to not get involved with her, but my heart was telling me something different ie. to give the girl a chance, and I did.

Have you ever played snooker or pool, and you know that just before you hit the white ball that you are not going to pot the contact ball, but you go ahead anyway and miss the shot? Well that's basically what happened.

I knew that I was making a huge mistake but couldn't stop myself, and went ahead and allowed myself to make that mistake and suffered the consequences.

The inherent irrationality of the human mind ..

Btw, she wasn't that good looking, but she was by no means unattractive either.

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

I'm a very firm believer in trusting one's intuition and going with one's instincts, and I'll be honest; my intuition and instincts were telling me to not get involved with her, but my heart was telling me something different ie. to give the girl a chance, and I did.

Have you ever played snooker or pool, and you know that just before you hit the white ball that you are not going to pot the contact ball, but you go ahead anyway and miss the shot? Well that's basically what happened.

I knew that I was making a huge mistake but couldn't stop myself, and went ahead and allowed myself to make that mistake and suffered the consequences.

The inherent irrationality of the human mind ..

Btw, she wasn't that good looking, but she was by no means unattractive either.

Well, you got hurt. Now learn from your mistakes. Practically everyone who has ever dated has been hurt at some point. I've had my heart broken several times. Didn't stop me from getting back out there and trying again.

Would you rather be lonely and bitter the rest of your life?

Dating takes practice and skill just like everything else. The more you do it, the better you get at it. Chalk up your past experience as a lesson learned, and get back out there.

unaluna · Apr 08, 2012 at 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

I knew that I was making a huge mistake but couldn't stop myself, and went ahead and allowed myself to make that mistake and suffered the consequences. The inherent irrationality of the human mind ..

This sounds like repetition compulsion (been there done that made a quilt out of the t-shirts) - was your therapist on an extended vacation, or were you just not listening? Isn't it his job to point out when you're succumbing to "inherent irrationality"? isn't that just a fancy way of saying you effed up again and you need a therapist other than yourself?

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by bipolarmedstudent

Well, you got hurt. Now learn from your mistakes. Practically everyone who has ever dated has been hurt at some point. I've had my heart broken several times. Didn't stop me from getting back out there and trying again.

Would you rather be lonely and bitter the rest of your life?

Dating takes practice and skill just like everything else. The more you do it, the better you get at it. Chalk up your past experience as a lesson learned, and get back out there.

I have and I will, just as soon as I lose some weight, grow some hair, get a nose job, undergo some cosmetic dentistry, and take a shower.

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Originally Posted by hankster

This sounds like repetition compulsion (been there done that made a quilt out of the t-shirts) - was your therapist on an extended vacation, or were you just not listening? Isn't it his job to point out when you're succumbing to "inherent irrationality"? isn't that just a fancy way of saying you effed up again and you need a therapist other than yourself?

I recognise that I made a mistake, but I don't need a therapist to confirm that.

unaluna · Apr 08, 2012 at 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

I recognise that I made a mistake, but I don't need a therapist to confirm that.

not to confirm - to fix what's broken, to fill in what's missing, to spackle the dented parts so you don't fall again. so the same stupid stuff doesn't come out of your mouth again that messes up your chances with the types you want to be with. if you can get all that stupid embarrassing stuff out with T, you'll be less susceptible to what happened last year. what do you think happens in therapy? you have great iq, maybe not so great eq? were you the apple of mummy's eye or not so much?

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 12:29 PM

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I have and I will, just as soon as I lose some weight, grow some hair, get a nose job, undergo some cosmetic dentistry, and take a shower.

Or why don't you just ask out women who are in the same physical league as you? You know, the overweight women with bad teeth and big noses? There are plenty of those around.

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by hankster

not to confirm - to fix what's broken, to fill in what's missing, to spackle the dented parts so you don't fall again. so the same stupid stuff doesn't come out of your mouth again that messes up your chances with the types you want to be with. if you can get all that stupid embarrassing stuff out with T, you'll be less susceptible to what happened last year. what do you think happens in therapy? you have great iq, maybe not so great eq? were you the apple of mummy's eye or not so much?

I am not broken. There is nothing missing. No stupid stuff came out of my mouth. I do not need a therapist. You surmise and assume too much, and don't attempt to play the armchair therapist with me, I do not need therapy. If I did I would be in therapy. Not everyone needs a therapist for their personal relationship issues, some people are actually capable of sorting out their personal stuff themselves.

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Or why don't you just ask out women who are in the same physical league as you? You know, the overweight women with bad teeth and big noses? There are plenty of those around.

Oh you've just descended a rung on the ladder of my personal estimation. Despite all of the above, I'm actually not an ugly guy. Believe it or not.

bipolarmedstudent · Apr 08, 2012 at 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Serotonin

I am not broken. There is nothing missing. No stupid stuff came out of my mouth. I do not need a therapist. You surmise and assume too much, and don't attempt to play the armchair therapist with me, I do not need therapy. If I did I would be in therapy. Not everyone needs a therapist for their personal relationship issues, some people are actually capable of sorting out their personal stuff themselves.

Oh you've just descended a rung on the ladder of my personal estimation. Despite all of the above, I'm actually not an ugly guy. Believe it or not.

I didn't say you're ugly, and I didn't say you should go after ugly women. You described yourself as being overweight, having a big nose, and crooked teeth. So why not look for a woman with the same, or similar traits?

unaluna · Apr 08, 2012 at 01:54 PM

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You surmise... too much

I'll take that as a compliment

Serotonin · Apr 08, 2012 at 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by bipolarmedstudent

I didn't say you're ugly, and I didn't say you should go after ugly women. You described yourself as being overweight, having a big nose, and crooked teeth. So why not look for a woman with the same, or similar traits?

Because she would be too like me, and I don't want to go out with someone so similar? Opposites attract and all of that malarkey? You know ..

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likewater Magnate Member Since Jul 2011 Posts: 2,309 13 492 hugs given	Apr 08, 2012 at 08:30 AM #23 Ok i'll go easy on the eggs and eat a gynormous chocolate bunny. I hope he'z not hollow.
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