[tryinghard973]

Say someone comes from money and there's mental illness, wouldnt someone try too exploit that. This is all I think about. I moved to my shore house and everyone knows of my condition. I even tried to date again, but I'm afraid because Ive isolated so long that people can lie and try to get or money?

Like seriously, people kill people in this world, why wouldn't a chick lie about something. That's why I'll never get better. Because society won't let me. Like I live alone and not from around here. People can easily follow someone. Or break in the house. How do I get over this. It really sucks. How do I trust people.

[Fresia]

I am sorry to hear you are struggling with these things. It can be hard. It is possible to have money and not let anyone know about, so it does not become an issue. People to get to know you and it not being about the money or MH issues. Isolation does not always have to stay that way; getting out to try new things, finding a hobby, taking a class, getting involved in a group, or church. There are things that one can do that helps break the tendency of staying isolated and to meet new people with common interests and can lead to romantic interests and dating. I hope you find something that might interest you to try new to get out there. Wishing the best as you move forward, one step at a time. Good luck!

[Perna]

If I were worried about my money because of my mental health I would create a trust fund so other people could not get it and so I just had "enough". I would learn to live on that "enough" and go about my way knowing that anyone interested in me, who might be interested only for my money would probably go away when they found out I only had "enough". I would make my money less attractive than I was for myself :-)

[tryinghard973]

No I'm just afraid that I always tell people personal stuff when I shouldn't. And if they knew I had a mental problem, they would try to take advantage of it. I mean people kill people everyday, why wouldn't someone try to take advantage of someone with a mental illness. I think it makes total sense.

Hi t973, do you trust yourself to follow your intuition about someone you meet? I mean, if I befriend someone I check in with myself to get a "gut feeling" about the person. I would tend to meet a new friend in a neutral location rather than bring the person to my home right off.

[Yoda]

I sometimes go out with a social group called Speakeasy Singles to dinner or bowling. They also have dances and other stuff to do as a group. It isn't a dating group but it allows adult singles to meet and socialize and you can get to know people that may or may not be interested in dating at some point. I have not met anyone that I want to date there but I do enjoy conversations with other adult women and men.

[Grey Matter]

I think if you're worried about slipping to much personal information, to just realize how to censor some things that you're saying so you feel safer. I agree, some people are horrid and don't deserve to be trusted, but when it comes to protecting ourselves we have to learn some things.

[tryinghard973]

Originally Posted by Grey Matter

I think if you're worried about slipping to much personal information, to just realize how to censor some things that you're saying so you feel safer. I agree, some people are horrid and don't deserve to be trusted, but when it comes to protecting ourselves we have to learn some things.

Originally Posted by Sister Rags

Hi t973, do you trust yourself to follow your intuition about someone you meet? I mean, if I befriend someone I check in with myself to get a "gut feeling" about the person. I would tend to meet a new friend in a neutral location rather than bring the person to my home right off.

Originally Posted by Yoda

I sometimes go out with a social group called Speakeasy Singles to dinner or bowling. They also have dances and other stuff to do as a group. It isn't a dating group but it allows adult singles to meet and socialize and you can get to know people that may or may not be interested in dating at some point. I have not met anyone that I want to date there but I do enjoy conversations with other adult women and men.

No I never think before I talk. I just say whatever is on my mind. I have a gut feeling about 4 people in my life. They know I'm going through ****. I always blamed them for **** they probably didn't do, but its like I feel like I'm feeding right into their trap. I don't know why the hell In text them. Like that's it I'm finally seeing how important my family is.

[niceguy]

Not everyone is going to hurt you. Not everyone is a selfish asshole that wants to destroy you/steal from you/ abandon you. I kept trying to have someone I love see this. I think that someone got in their ear and convinced them that I would try and take everything. Years later and I am financially more stable than they are. Yet, even if it had been an option I wouldn't have done it. I have morals. Anyone who is ill, may pose a higher risk, but also should not live their life in fear. Be cautious but love openly - otherwise money is just paper that bleeds the soul.

[hvert]

What about making a checklist of ways you can tell when someone is trying to take advantage of you, warning signs or red flags?

[Hellion]

There are people who might try to exploit or take advantage of mentally ill people who have a significant amount of money...to more or less try and get at it. But not everyone is like that, sometimes its best to keep a lot of details to yourself when first meeting people until you have a better idea of what sort of person they are and can potentially tell them more if you feel safe doing so.

Also though do you keep a lot of cash in your house? If so it might be a good idea to deposit it into a bank...or credit union savings account or something I prefer credit unions. Or perhaps a safe. But yeah if your money is in an account...you'd be the only one who has access so long as you keep your debit card/account information to yourself.

[MotownJohnny]

When I was first immersed into my "crisis" and then told on top of that I was bipolar, one of the thoughts I had immediately was "the good life is over, you're going to die in the gutter penniless". Because, hey, I thought ... they'll use this as an excuse to take everything away from me.

If you are unable to manage your own affairs, you should seek out some very competent professional legal and financial help. You definitely can structure your financial situation in a way that protects you from exploitation and guarantees access to what you need when you need it.