[Alone & confused]

What are some of you're favorite remarks/comebacks in response to a stupid question or statement made to you?

[ifst5]

Ha **** off usually works.

I only tend to use sarcasm in the humorous sense, when someone's driving me crazy I'm usually pretty blunt - what's the point in messing about? I don't have the time for it.

[eskielover]

H used sarcasm to put me down.....which he had no right to do because I was a college grad & an equal.....I started returning the sarcasm but I hated what it was making me into.....so I told him to either stop the sarcasm or GET OUT because I didn't want anything more to do with him if that was the way he chose to act. He didn't start it until AFTER we were married.

It took about a year of catching him every time he opened his mouth & put down sarcasm came out of his mouth that if finally lessened.....but honestly.....I HATE SARCASM & NEVER use it on anyone for any reason.

[Ripose]

Regarding my MI someone once said " There is really something wrong with you." To which I replied "So you are assuming that there is something "right" about you".

[IrisBloom]

Once when the ex and I were arguing, I said "You can't possibly be as stupid as you sound" and he said "Yes, I can!" lol

[EJ711]

Originally Posted by Alone & confused

What are some of you're favorite remarks/comebacks in response to a stupid question or statement made to you?

Alone & Confused, I'm sorry you are hurting.

Hurting is a lonely place. I'm feeling a bit hurt too at the moment.

When someone has hurt you, it can throw you off balance, and/or turn your life upside down.

I suffered a hurt at the end of August, and with my PTSD, it is taking me some time to figure out what the best course of action to take is.

Your quote about givers setting boundaries is VERY WISE. Thanks for sharing.

Hope you feel better soon

[Silent Void]

My solution would make use of copious amounts of profanity and soft things that fly through the air.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Being slightly deaf, I usually say 'three o'clock I think'

[IrisBloom]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

Being slightly deaf, I usually say 'three o'clock I think'

I'm wondering what kind of responses you get to that.

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Confusion, exasperation, but I cannot really hear unless they shout.

[ToeJam]

Mostly with my wife (person I talk to the most)... "yes dear" with a little smile that normally gets me a whack across the back of the head hehe.

They say that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit... but I guess it depends on the company you're in.

Anyway, reminded me of this picture:

[eskielover]

I definitely wouldn't want to be "kept" by the likes of a person like that.

Like your wife's whack on the back of the head...much more my style.

Sadly for me, I wish now that I had kicked him out of my life then rather than the years of dealing with a bad marriage that I ended up with....so many early on red flags I let pass by & now I'm still struggling to get the divorce finalized from 2100 miles away.

I don't think that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit....I think it's the lowest form of intelligent life & it's definitely NOT the body's natural defense against stupidity. Natural defense is to kick the person out of your life & not have to deal with it ever again.

[ToeJam]

Sorry to see that this has had such a hard impact on you Eskie and as such I won't quibble too much over being labled as lacking in intelligence. I acknowledge that humour of the banter type (and sarcasm falls into this) treads a fine line of mutual one up manship (if both parties have a similar sense of wit) to control (bullying) if the recipitant is at the butt end of every joke.

Can also be a cultural thing, in the UK for example... Banter of the above type is pretty standard across the sexes but is generally light hearted. If I felt that I'd upset someone I would stop immediately and apologise as well as note their tolerance level to that kind of thing so as to avoid future upset.

As for my own wife, our relationship is healthy (with exception to my bruises heh) and I would never intentionally (nor unintentionally if I can help it) humiliate her nor anyone else.

[Werewoman]

Yesterday as I was purchasing groceries, I asked the girl bagging them if she was having a good day to which she responded with a very enthusiastic sounding "Great!". I chuckled at that and commented on her enthusiasm. She informed me she was being sarcastic and we both laughed. Then I said, "I didn't think you were being sarcastic" to which she responded, "Thanks!". I then told her, "Hon, I meant that sarcastically". We both had a really good laugh. My husband just rolled his eyes.

[Alone & confused]

Once I was talking to a friend of mine as she was in a hurry trying to go somewhere. She said "Have I got everything ? My purse, my keys......what did I do with my phone?" I said, "I don't know, but when you find it CALL ME BACK!" lol.

[waiting4]

Anytime ANYONE calls me 'dear'...sarcastic or not (sometimes they seem to think it's appropriate but it just grates my nerves) I offer a stunning smile and respond thus:

"Did you need some help with that, dear?"
"No, I think I've got it, sunshine." with just the slightest twisting of emphasis. Those that get my meaning, smile in return...often, quite often, they laugh. Those that don't get my meaning haven't the sense to get sarcasm either, and aren't worth my effort.

So it's all good

[eskielover]

I acknowledge that humour of the banter type (and sarcasm falls into this) treads a fine line of mutual one up manship (if both parties have a similar sense of wit) to control (bullying) if the recipitant is at the butt end of every joke.

I do agree, there is a fine line. At the time, I had no idea just how dysfunctional H was with his social ability & that he didn't have the ability to understand that fine line & crossed it continually saw later on through the years that he would say things he thought were funny & he was the only one laughing at himself. It didn't hurt me because I knew he was full of crap & I had enough self-confidence in myself to know that I didn't fit the what he thought was a humorous put down......but it was just a bother to listen to all the humiliation crap that he thought was funny so it was much better to cut him off & show him the door & the divorce papers

As for my own wife, our relationship is healthy (with exception to my bruises heh) and I would never intentionally (nor unintentionally if I can help it) humiliate her nor anyone else.

Our relationship was never healthy....but he had no idea how to have a relationship, something I didn't figure out until 33 years later after I was finally willing & able to leave him. Your ability to have the sensitivity to never intentionally or unintentionally humiliate anyone says a lot for your sensitivity & your ability to have the intelligence to know other ways of expressing yourself so as NOT to cross that line in using sarcasm. My comment basically would only apply to those who do not have the ability to have other ways of expressing their thoughts in relationship to humiliating other people.

Don Rickels (sp?) was the comedian that H decided to emulate & that sarcasm was mostly did nothing but humiliate others & it totally turned me off of all sarcasm......but there is definitely cute non-damaging humor that doesn't seem like sarcasm at all.....guess it's mostly what we have been involved with......dry humor is not all sarcastic....& subtle humor isn't all sarcasm either.....& that I do enjoy & find humorous.....it is only the sarcasm that humiliates others that is on my "no tolerance" list.

Thank you for pointing out that there is a fine line of distinction

[Jom Tones]

Yes, putdowns, whether sarcastic or otherwise, are sure to enlighten and rid the body of underachieving.

[Alone & confused]

Originally Posted by Ripose

Regarding my MI someone once said " There is really something wrong with you." To which I replied "So you are assuming that there is something "right" about you".

Good one!

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Splendid thread - this got me thinking, I am prefer irony to sarcasm, but what is the difference - ah, the internet knows: Irony vs Sarcasm - Sarcasm Society

[lizardlady]

One of ToeJam's posts reminded me of a relationship I had years ago with a co-worker. The job we had was stressful. As a way to blow off steam we used to trade truly sarcastic comments. Neither of us would have tolerated similar comments from anyone else. Heck, we would not have tolerated someone else making those comments to the other one! We both knew we were "playing", blowing off steam. It was a stress relieving game to us. Plus, we were able to tell the other one "not today" and that was the end of the game. I don't remember specific examples, but we could cut each other off at the knees.

ToeJam, hubby and I used to use "yes dear" sarcastically too. It was code for telling the other one they had gone too far.

Several of you expressed concern that the OP is hurting because he asked about sarcasm. Personally, I don't believe it necessarily means the person is hurting. Yes, it can be a way of expressing pain. Yes, it can be a way of inflicting pain on someone else. Some times it is outright bullying or abuse. BUT some times it's just the kind of sense of humor the person has.

[ToeJam]

Spot on Lizard. As recently as this year, I too had a co-worker that would quick fire banter between us and it was just a game... She knew she'd won when I would respond with 'meh' and I knew I'd won when she'd call me a dumb arse lol (or words to that effect)... Was friendly and if a line was crossed or one was not in the mood then the other was understanding.

With the wife it's a little different... I'm a lot gentler and subtle with my wit as when it comes to that side of things my brain works faster (hence my chuckling when she whacks me with that smile on her face)... I certainly do not and would not be sarcastic to her in front of others unless they are folk we both like a lot and know how we both tick.

She does derive a lot of pleasure on the occasion she stumps me with a come back and gets very happy when I compliment her on a job well done while I look a little peeved for theatrical purposes lol