[seeker1950]

The other morning while the friend was at church, I asked her husband as he was driving past in his little sports car if he knew about someone who could mow my lawn. He already knew I was looking for someone to do this since my yard man is having heart problems. He asked me, "would you like to go for lunch?" I said, "No, I've already had lunch." Then he kept asking me, and then he asked, "How about we go for a marguerita?" I said, "No, I'm abstaining now." I know his wife would not approve of this. He is my friend, but it seemed inappropriate to me. I would never tell her he asked me this. Nor am I a prude. I just know how conservative and fundamentally Christian she is.
I'm not even uncomfortable about this, as they are both my friends, but I felt he was inappropriate asking me to go out with him alone. What is your take on this?

[Webgoji]

In my opinion ... completely inappropriate. I like Dr Phil's take on stuff like this, "You have to avoid even the appearance of impropriety."

[KathyM]

I would have told him "ONLY if your wife can come along. Then we can ALL talk more about finding someone to mow my lawn together. It can wait until church gets out."

If he pushed it any further, I'd say "Tell your Wife she married a Pig - or I'll tell her myself, if you'd like."

[seeker1950]

I apologize, I meant for this to be in the Relationships thread. Mods, can you move it?

[eskielover]

I agree....totally inappropriate. Learned NEVER to do anything that could put me in a bad place no matter what the other person is choosing to want to do....I have to be in control of ME & my own life & don't want to get caught up in any soap opera messes that other people want to make out of their lives.

After my oral surgery, I wasn't able to drive to the appointments at the university. The pastor of our church offered to drive me to the appointments......His wife can be a bit challenging to be around but was so glad when she offered for us to ALL go to my appointment & then out to lunch afterward (soup & chocolate shake for me). I introduced them to Trader Joe's in the city & then the next time we did lunch & did some shopping at another store I really like going to. Much more comfortable of a situation as it doesn't give anyone anything to talk about & it's just much wiser to not put oneself into a situation that could end up creating a mess in anyone's life especially yours.

[MCarter]

It was inappropriate and if he does that again I suggest that you give a good reply so that he doesn't think of flirting with his wife's friend ever again.

[lizardlady]

Personally, I don't have a problem with two married people having lunch together. I've had lunch with a married friend. BUT it was two friends who happen to be of the opposite sex having lunch.

What your friend's husband did was inappropriate. If all he'd done was invite you to lunch it might have been okay. He crossed the line when he kept pushing.

I like MCarter's idea. Have a response figured out ahead of time in case he ever tries this again and cut him off at the knees.

[Crazy Hitch]

I can't always read people's true intent either seeker so if I think something is off beat sometimes I just let it be.