I did tend to say inappropriate things as a teen. One "friend" lily Allen, suggested I had touch of curious dog in the night time. No I have a mood disorder, not the same. Sorry I said like " moriarty" I knew after it was wrong and admitted it another friend. But you couldn't wait to get back at me, and called my stuck up hypocrite like Grace in BB
I said that when you found the right "one" that you would calm down.
I think he hurt you and you thought that the way to win mens affection was to sleep with them because he was horrible, got what he wanted then ended it. I know you cried to parents,
You said I was spoiled and went into my wardrobe expecting it to be like black sheep's and I had a dudes wardrobe . I knew what I liked and bought same styles year after year. My gran n granda and biological father gave me pocket money. My parents did not. I would look at the crates of beer stacked like a pyramid and I was so angry. My and my brother never got the sports gear we needed yet I was banned from going to my friends boyfriends house so I couldn't hang with my pals and one outright said she told a boy I was weird. It was my parents fault.
When you dismissed me as a childhood friend on bebo, I was disappointed. We created a monster.
We planned a concert in Glasgow but I was forbidden from going. My parents were worried you might bump into a guy and abandon me. They were right for a change. My dad treated me and brother same even though I wasn't his by blood. So what if he wasn't perfect. He would say saying just because he liked the sound of them. He d say I didn't have a mind of my as I was shy. One of my insecure friends said I must be a mongol that's why they were so strict. They were just super strict end of story. Snow.
Fine, I forgive you hoodie, panda banana coke Andy Murray, I said get away from this circus it was dead on. And purple bra ranger f#@ny flannel

Hmmm, it does sound strict but it also sounds like you expect a lot for nothing in return. You freely mention your own questionable behaviour yet seem incredulous to being held accountable. The more difficult and flagrant the behaviour the stronger the expectations and limits will be placed upon you. As for your apparent expectation your parents give you money, this is not a right rather something earned. I ask in what way are you doing so. That you are frustrated is understandable but you have got to take your own responsibility into account. Yes it seems their parenting style could use some direction but they are not alone in this questionable behaviour. If you want to see positive change, garnering their respect is the way to do so.

[*Laurie*]

I Want to...

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

I Want to...

So I'm not the only one who's mind went there. Lol

I wish I had some advice but my brain is not processing what you are saying this morning. I'd like to offer a hug anyways.

[*Laurie*]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Hmmm, it does sound strict but it also sounds like you expect a lot for nothing in return. You freely mention your own questionable behaviour yet seem incredulous to being held accountable. The more difficult and flagrant the behaviour the stronger the expectations and limits will be placed upon you. As for your apparent expectation your parents give you money, this is not a right rather something earned. I ask in what way are you doing so. That you are frustrated is understandable but you have got to take your own responsibility into account. Yes it seems their parenting style could use some direction but they are not alone in this questionable behaviour. If you want to see positive change, garnering their respect is the way to do so.

From what I understand, SapphireRed was under age 18 when she felt hurt because her parents didn't give her the money or equipment she needed. I can understand feeling hurt about that, as I do believe parents have a commitment to their kids to provide for them properly.

FYI, Saphire, you can type out fanny if you'd like. It doesn't have the same meaning for Americans, and it greatly entertains the rest of us

I'm sorry you parents were cheap- asses as you were growing up.

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Hmmm, it does sound strict but it also sounds like you expect a lot for nothing in return. You freely mention your own questionable behaviour yet seem incredulous to being held accountable. The more difficult and flagrant the behaviour the stronger the expectations and limits will be placed upon you. As for your apparent expectation your parents give you money, this is not a right rather something earned. I ask in what way are you doing so. That you are frustrated is understandable but you have got to take your own responsibility into account. Yes it seems their parenting style could use some direction but they are not alone in this questionable behaviour. If you want to see positive change, garnering their respect is the way to do so.

OK so drinking every single night and spending four nights a week in the pub is good parenting? Telling my sibling and me they were cash strapped yet had twenty crates of beer and cider stacked up in bedroom

Originally Posted by SapphireRed

OK so drinking every single night and spending four nights a week in the pub is good parenting? Telling my sibling and me they were cash strapped yet had twenty crates of beer and cider stacked up in bedroom

Actually, I did in fact address the fact that their parenting choices were not perfect. But I was trying to stress the fact that one's own actions have consequences.

Someone else mentioned the money thing. I understood this to be spending money. My answer again is that, as with respect, it is not a right but a privilege earned. My kids (now adults) started working at the age 14. They also recieved payment for what they did around the house. What is holding you back?

I started working at 15
I took the dog a walk twice a day
I got A s and B s in exams
I did housework all the time
Did my own ironing from about 13
I walked home for my school lunches
They bought me one pair of trainers the whole year
I made my own tea/supper
I paid rent money from 17 years old
I never got a college bursary as my parents combined income was too high. So I dropped out to work

I d $#n well know the value of money! I am not a spoilt millenial. I have worked for everything in my life.

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Actually, I did in fact address the fact that their parenting choices were not perfect. But I was trying to stress the fact that one's own actions have consequences.

Someone else mentioned the money thing. I understood this to be spending money. My answer again is that, as with respect, it is not a right but a privilege earned. My kids (now adults) started working at the age 14. They also recieved payment for what they did around the house. What is holding you back?

Check the above list.
I was expected to do chores for nothing in return. I didn't even get a well done for passing exams

[FallDuskTrain]

Originally Posted by SapphireRed

I started working at 15

I took the dog a walk twice a day

I got A s and B s in exams

I did housework all the time

Did my own ironing from about 13

I walked home for my school lunches

They bought me one pair of trainers the whole year

I made my own tea/supper

I paid rent money from 17 years old

I never got a college bursary as my parents combined income was too high. So I dropped out to work


I d $#n well know the value of money! I am not a spoilt millenial. I have worked for everything in my life.

The above list looks like what everyone else, including myself, did to survive and learn to live responsibly. The above list has been the default schedule and tasks for most people I know. I am glad that I had to do the above and also took on more responsibilities. It prepared me for life and it certainly helped me not to grow up like a princess.

[*Laurie*]

I just don't expect all kids to start working when they're young teens. I did, my son did, but my daughter was a later bloomer. That was okay. Household chores, certainly. Both of my now-adult children are doing really well in life. I don't see millennials as "spoiled", I think they're a fabulous generation.

[Taylor27]

In this case the op parents are irresponsible for there actions

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

I just don't expect all kids to start working when they're young teens. I did, my son did, but my daughter was a later bloomer. That was okay. Household chores, certainly. Both of my now-adult children are doing really well in life. I don't see millennials as "spoiled", I think they're a fabulous generation.

I agree that working is neither the answer or suitable for all youth and apologise for the OP's thread diverging. My intention was to stress that one's own behaviour begets the manner of treatment received in return. The OP stated their behaviour was questionable. Why would they then have high expectations for superior treatment as a result? The OP seems to think such treatment obligatory. Granted their parent's behaviour is also questionable but my point is that the OP seems to be failing to look within. The bit about the value of money and the expectation Vs earning of it is merely case in point.

[*Laurie*]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I agree that working is neither the answer or suitable for all youth and apologise for the OP's thread diverging. My intention was to stress that one's own behaviour begets the manner of treatment received in return. The OP stated their behaviour was questionable. Why would they then have high expectations for superior treatment as a result? The OP seems to think such treatment obligatory. Granted their parent's behaviour is also questionable but my point is that the OP seems to be failing to look within. The bit about the value of money and the expectation Vs earning of it is merely case in point.

Hi justafriend, I'm so sorry...I don't really understand your post and I want to. If you feel like it, maybe you can explain in a different way?

No problem. I think the issue of the parents own behaviour is secondary to that of the original poster's.

The OP stated their behaviour was undesirable.
The OP stated that they expected to be treated with dignity and respect.
The OP suggested they were 'owed' money (I interpreted this as spending money).

I cry foul at this. Why does the OP expect these things if, as they themselves indicated, they may not have been deserving.

My point is that you reap what you sow. Respect is something earned - as is, I suggest, money. Hence, my encouragement that the OP do something to do so.

I find this whole thing a case of the pot calling the kettle black.

[*Laurie*]

Thank you, Justafriend. I understand now.

I appreciate RedSapphire's poetic style; it's interesting, but from her OP I can't really discern what went on when she was growing up.