To tell or not to tell

The mother of one of my 14-year-old son's friends told me in strict confidence that her son was invited by a 16-year-old to a party he is hosting. The 16-year-old student secretly rented an AirB&B to throw the party behind his parents' backs. I feel like I should tell the mother of the 16-year-old but I want to do it anonymously. Is there a way to communicate this information without implicating my friend or myself?

Definitely need to let his parents know. Where would a 16 year old get the money to rent an airB&B in the first place & they don't rent to 16 year olds because they are not a legal age to be in a rental contract agreement.....so who knows what ID he might have stolen to do it in the first place. His parents definitely need to know.

How to do it anonomously is not an easy task. Do you actually know them?

I would probably just straght forward contact them & just say that you have heard what you said here & thought they might want to check into it. Give them the date of the party & location so they know what to look for.

The kid may just be talking big to impress but his parents should know just in case. I wouldn't give all the details of where you got the infirmation but just that this is what you heard. I know if I were his parents I would definitely be going through my credit card accounts to check out the information to see if that is really what is going on. The problem with totally anonomous is that it is easier to blow it off not knowing where the information came from.....but I confront everything directly & diplomatically without accusation just "possible information".....65 years has shown me tbis has been the best way for me to deal with things.

I would just contact the school anonymously and let them know about the kid and his air bnb party. They may call the kid's parents and let them know about it. If you know or can find out where the party is, you can tell the people renting the place about the party.

If the kids are not your own children I would stay the eff out of a situation that could seriously backfire on you.

Actually I read it wrong.....that mother that told you her 14 year old son got invited to the party should be the one going to the mom to tell not you. You are 3rd party it it that other mothers responsibility to say something not you (i read it first that it was your son invited & another mother told you about the party situation which was my first response was what it was...closer reading....not your responsibility but that responsibility definitely belongs to the mom of the 14 year old.

I would not get involved as long as your own child was not invited to the party. The parent who knows the information about the party from her son is the one responsible for notifying the boys parents. You are a 3rd party to the matter-so I would not say a word. I would also be afraid that if I told on the boy-he would seek retaliation against my son. The kid had to get a fake ID or book the air BnB in another nme. Then there is the question of where the 16 year old got that money. As long as your own child is not directly involved-it may be best to keep it out it as this can get very complicated.

I agree that it's up to the mother of the child invited to this party. Maybe she could contact the parents, say that she appreciates the child's invitation and ask if there's anything that they need help with as far as food and sodas etc?

maybe stole/used his parents credit card thinking he could get away with it because they would see a charge not made by them & complain to the CC company as a stolen use if thr card & just get it wiped off their bill since that is how CC companies work....file a report your number was stolen & the kid gets away with it. Just steals the next card when he wants something & gets away with it because stuff like that JUST happens to people all the time. Kid is learning how to scam & needs to be stopped.