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#1
Oct 21, 2010, 08:46 PM
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It has been three weeks tonight since my youngest son died. Everyone else seems to be healing and moving on. I can't. And now they seem tired of comforting me.
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Oct 22, 2010, 12:49 AM
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Hi mommas. Oh, I am so very for your devastating loss. My heart really goes out to you and I'm just so sorry. I hope you are able to get some professional help as you deal with this terrible tragedy. Sending you love and strength
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Oct 22, 2010, 12:50 AM
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Mommas, I'm so so SO sorry for your loss, and wish that I had the words to console you in the way that you need. Have you tried grief counseling? After the loss of my mom when I was 19, I went to counseling with my brother, and it helped us immensely.
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Oct 22, 2010, 01:58 AM
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I am so sorry.
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The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. anonymous |
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Oct 22, 2010, 04:30 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. I would like to offer that you will receive much support on these forums. Please feel free to post more when you are ready. We will all be here for you. Ready to comfort you in your time of need.
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 Crying isn't a sign of weakness. It's a sign of having tried too hard to be strong for too long. |
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Nov 08, 2010, 12:10 AM
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It has been three years since I lost my son. It has begun to get a little easier now. I can tell you that everyone may seem to be "moving on" but that means their pain is just moving "in." We all grieve in different ways. I couldn't work. My husband couldn't not work. I stopped functioning, he went in to hyperdrive. I went into hospital. He went into work every morning at 5.45am. But then he came home to an empty house and shouted and cried and fell apart every afternoon. He didn't tell me this until much later. He is often home over an hour before me and it is his hardest hour of the day. For me it is the morning ... alone in the house.
It took me a year or more to be able to go to our regular grocery store. I kept imagining my son with me and I kept wanting to buy the things he loved. You have a long road ahead of you, try not to let what other people say ab out how you should grieve pull you down. Give yourself the gift of time and make sure you get lots of support...particularly from others who have lost children. I recommend a support group like Compassionate Friends which is just for parents who have lost children. In our local group there are people there who attend every month and have been doing so for years. There is no time line for grief, especially when you lose a child. You don't have to do it like anyone else or according to the same schedule as anyone else. Be gentle with yourself. Mona |
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#7
Nov 08, 2010, 12:55 AM
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I found an article you might find useful, hope it might help, maybe even share it with others around you so they can be more understanding.
"Why we grieve differently" by Jinny Tesik, M.A. It is on suicide survivors sight but the article is a gneral one about grief. I can't put a web link in this post but you can search it online. It sounded pretty useful. |
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