[Toxie55]

Since my mother died, my 2 aunts and one aunts husband follow
wherever I go and I need to write it down somewhere
First it started at the grocery store near where I live and then
local eatery so I moved away from that area, now it is
at the beach - since I started walking program they try to
get me to talk - I stopped to talk to one and today the aunt
and husband are there again and the other aunt is too so I have to go another way to avoid this constant nagging- they like to gossip and they are
not helpful , the aunt pretends I like to talk with her husband
he has followed me in car to bank and out of control with drinking.
I wish that one of the cousins could pick up the phone
I have had it-

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Originally Posted by Toxie55

Since my mother died, my 2 aunts and one aunts husband follow
wherever I go and I need to write it down somewhere
First it started at the grocery store near where I live and then
local eatery so I moved away from that area, now it is
at the beach - since I started walking program they try to
get me to talk - I stopped to talk to one and today the aunt
and husband are there again and the other aunt is too so I have to go another way to avoid this constant nagging- they like to gossip and they are
not helpful , the aunt pretends I like to talk with her husband
he has followed me in car to bank and out of control with drinking.
I wish that one of the cousins could pick up the phone
I have had it-

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hey toxie,
Maybe sometimes others / family , think it is there purpose to console . Or maybe they want to share memories, that they not have. And then there is the other times when people think sharing their losses with someone gives validation to the one they are speaking to.
Personally, from what I know and have read, those that share their own losses when being consilatory /sp/ , kind of think they have some magical answer to another ones loss. So I won't presume such.
I would only Hope that what your relatives are trying to express, is care. Although awkward as it may seem.
With time, may your burden be lightened, and the loss, relinquish to Love.
Take Gentle care and Time,
Se
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[Toxie55]

I get upset because they are not good at keeping confidences and I know
this sounds weird but they try to mimic my mother's mannerisms in a way
that I don't like and think it is mean.
I would like to hear from cousins but aunt and husband are bothersome
and don't want it that way- I can't explain why-