[Zorah]

5th March will be the first anniversary of our husband's death.

it was almost 40 years to the day since we met, & over 39 years since we married.

he just dropped dead in the middle of a sentence, we knew he had a terminal illness, but they told us 6 days earlier that he would live another 1 or 2 years.

we are not coping well

I am so sorry! ((((((((((Zorah)))))))))

[LMo]

Zorah, I'm really sorry. I remember how hard it was for you last year. Please know that my thoughts are with you, and I hope that the anniversary can be more of fond and loving reflection than pain.

[sabby]

(((((Zorah)))))

May you be able to find some peaceful thoughts and happy rememberances to get your through this difficult time.

My prayers are with you.

Hugssss
Jean

[DocClyde]

(((Zorah)))

[Rhapsody]

<font color="purple"> ((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS ))))))) </font>

Just wanted to let you know that I understand the feelings and fears you are having and I feel that you might need the comforting arms of other people on this day. Please talk to your friends or family and let them know how you are feeling.... ((( hugs )))


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[mindfulchick]

I know what you're going through in a way-my boyfriend died unexpectedly on 7/1 of a "catastrophic heart attack." Late March would've been his 50th birthday.

I was doing OK with it till I had a dream about him last week-kind of interesting! I'm going to talk to my therapist about it Friday and look into some specific grief counseling.

I was told the dream meant I hadn't accepted his passing.

HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE?

chick

HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE?

Unfortunately, healing from the loss of a loved one does not come with a time frame.

Grief takes as much time, or as little, as it needs too.

[nothemama8]

Zorah we are always here for you and the nest
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Angie

[Fuzzybear]

((((((((((((((( Zorah )))))))))))))))

[Zorah]

Thanks {{{{{{{{{{everyone}}}}}}}}}}

We are still thinking over the 40 years with Tony, it is probably going to take longer than this.

At least half the time, when we wake up we still expect him to be there

we are going to light candles & 12 fibre optic lamps & other stuff at the anniversary of his death.

he died about 11.30pm on March 5th Australian Eastern Daylight Saving Time.

it is our older (schizophrenic) son's birthday on 7th March

please think of us, our sons too, at that time (if you can work out the time conversion, we never can )

Maybe we will be on line then, but probably not, unless we are alone. We think the guy who was caring for Tony, & who tried to resucitate him (we forgot that Tony had asked us not to try, but it didn't work any way) will be here, but maybe not.

We've run out of words

Zorah-- I lit a candle tonight for you and Tony.

It stays lit for 48hrs. It is listed under SN. Type it in the Search bx.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/enter.cfm?l=eng

[Zorah]

Thank you )))))sweet purple petalled queen(((((

We saved the candle & we lit one too , under ZN, we'll keep it burning until the time.

[Zorah]

We are really freaking out as the time comes closer

we went out today & we were SURE Tony would be here when we arrived home

he wasn't here, of course & then we got really upset

it's just too hard..........

Zorah-- I always find the "lead up" to the actual day is worse than the actual day itself, so maybe that is true for you too. I hope so.

Grief is not easy. Be gentle with yourself.

((((( Zorah )))))

[Zorah]

((((((((((sweet Petunia))))))))))

We think you may be right about that



We lit another Candle under ZN2, & before it burns out, we will light one called ZN3. We find the candles very comforting, even though they are virtual candles.

[Zorah]

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((((( Zorah )))))))))))))))))

Love,
xo Fuzzy

{{{{ ZORAH AND TONY }}}}

zorah.........just want you to know that i know how difficult tomorrow will be for you......i hope that you can spend some of the day remembering good times that you had with your husband.......i'm here if you need a shoulder.......

[EJ711]

Zorah,

I am so sorry for your loss.

Do you have a friend you can go out to lunch with, or do something celebratory?

((((((((((Zorah)))))))))))

EJ

[(JD)]

(((zozo)))

[DocClyde]

(((zorah)))