[Hugs needed]

I really, really miss him and want to be with him. I hide my feelings everyday so I can get through my work day but come nighttime I fall apart.
I have a T and I belong to a grief support group and that helps a little but I realy want him back.
I'm having a rough day today. How do others make it though their day?

[bebop]

I have felt that way a few times during losses. first was my granddaughter then my dad. I have to say it is sometimes one step at a time. it is not easy to say the least but in time it does get a little easier.

[Hugs needed]

That's what everyone says. I take small steps at a time but then I slide down a slide. It reminds me of the game "Shoots and Ladders" but I never see Ladders.

[likewater]

(((( hugs needed)))) so sorry for your loss. Just take it one hour or even 15 minutes at a time. Anything kind , or nice you can do for yourself, do it. Accept help from others. Whatever you are feeling is ok . May angels surround you. Dont forget to breathe. Dont forget to eat.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I lost my husband 11 years ago, and when he died, I thought I was going to lose my mind. He and I were almost one -- we could read each others thoughts -- we knew what each other was thinking. We did everything together.

I didn't know how I was going to make it -- thank GOD for my daughter! She stayed with me for 2 weeks afterwards, but stil. I was an absolute basket case for a LONG time. I could function, but it was like I was walking in a fog. I paid the bills, I took care of responsibilities -- but I wasn't "right." I went thru the first year like that, even tho I got counseling thru a grief counselor.

After the first year, I "came out of it." It was still hard, and I cried at the drop of a hat, but I just took baby steps and took it a minute at a time cause a day at a time was too much.

We do what we can do. That's all anyone can ask of us. If you have a good friend or relative that you can rely on, USE them. This is a difficult time for you. There are 5 stages of grief: Shock, anger, Depression, Bargaining and Acceptance. I never went thru the Bargaining stage, but I went thru all the others. How long we stay in each stage is different for each person. From what you say you're probably in the depression stage, or you MIGHT be in the bargaining stage.

I'm glad you're getting help. That's really important. You're making progress -- I know it doesn't seem like it, but you are. I wish you the very best. Keep posting, and venting. It really helps. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[shezbut]

I am so sorry.

I know that words can't describe the pain you're experiencing.

I'd recommend devoting yourself to something physical that you and your husband did together. Like: if he was into gardening and loved certain plants, you can put a lot of love and focus into getting a special garden going in memory of him. Or if you often went on bike rides or walks together, keep it up in memory of your husband. Make those rides or walks longer and focus on the beauty of nature that you shared together.

Very best wishes and gentle hugs to you.

[Hugs needed]

Thank you!
I just came back from a mini vacation and it was so hard to see other family members holding hands, kissing, snuggling, and even sharing the glances. I miss that and when I see others especially family memebers who I am close to do these things I just cry and my heart just aches. I really miss all those wonder times. These are the things you only share with your spouse so a friend can't help with this.

[bebop]

was your husband sick hon? or was it sudden? I think that will be the key to healing. or the start of it I should say. not sure you ever fully heal from it. remember the good times you had with him.