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Sep 04, 2006, 10:30 PM
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I met one of my dearest friends when I was 13 and he was my 8th grade social studies teacher. Dennis treated kids like human beings, and not pests, and was the best person in the world for advice and the occasional hug (this was back in the late 70s, before such things were considered harassment, sigh).
We have kept in touch all these years, though more sporadically lately. We remember birthdays and Christmas, forward the occasional joke or outrage, but haven't talked much since I got sick last winter. I just found out his son died (age 32) right around the time I was so sick in December. Mark had battled Hodgkin's for 5 or 6 years. I just don't know what to say or do for my friend. I'd been afraid to ask how things were going, because he was never one to talk about it much. Knowing him, he figured I had my own stuff going on, so didn't tell me himself (there was a big article on him in my hometown newspaper, which is how I found out). I feel so awful for him. Mark was his only son, the oldest of 3. I can't fathom what it must be like to lose a child. I just don't know what to do. An email is so impersonal and a card isn't much better. It's not feasible to go visit right now. Does anybody have any ideas? Candy |
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Sep 04, 2006, 11:18 PM
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Candy.. did you know his son fairly well? I mean to the point that maybe you could do some kind of memorial to him thru a poem and maybe frame it? I know money is tight for you and this would be something meaningful for him to hold onto. Its just a thought.. maybe this would give you a direction anyways. Hope it helps.
Good Luck and I am sorry for your friends loss Beth
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Sep 04, 2006, 11:30 PM
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 I used to babysit Mark, actually. But I hadn't seen him in years and years and years, so I only remember the little boy. It's a nice thought, though. I'll see if I can come up with something along similar lines. Thanks for the suggestion. Candy |
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Sep 04, 2006, 11:33 PM
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Maybe you could plant something in his memory?
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Sep 05, 2006, 01:21 PM
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An appropriate idea from a flower.
 Actually, I really like that, and it's something I can do. Thanks for the idea! |
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Sep 05, 2006, 04:11 PM
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Write a letter in the mail, Some teachers do still hug.
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Sep 12, 2006, 02:58 PM
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(((((((( Candy ))))))))))
I'm so sorry this has happened. I think you've received some wonderful suggestions and I can't think of anything better to add. I know you will come up with something creative and meaningful. Hugs, Jan
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I still dream and I still hope, therefore I can take what comes today. Jan is in Lothlorien reading 'neath a mallorn tree. My avatar and signature were created for my use only and may not be copied or used by anyone else. |
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Sep 12, 2006, 08:08 PM
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(((Candy)))
Prayers for his family...
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