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Mar 09, 2007, 04:04 PM
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I'm really at a loss and would love to hear what works for other people. The things that use to comfort me now only make things worse for they surround somebody who means very much to me that i dont have close contact with anymore.
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Mar 09, 2007, 05:00 PM
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Reach out to someone...this is a tough one as I know that it is the last thing I will or want to do...
I would say that is the big number 1 for me. My mom usually can tell something is going as well for me when we don't talk like "normal". I spent a lot of time on the phone the other day with her. Everything on the surface seems to be going ok...Deep inside the thoughts of hopelessness keep churning. My p-doc says we are not our thoughts. Sometimes that hard to accept. Simpler things I've done: Watch my favorite romantic comedy... Journal Leave the house and go get something - as simply as getting gas or groceries I'll keep it positive - there are a lot of negative things I do to comfort myself so I won't list those.
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Mar 09, 2007, 06:22 PM
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I write to get the darkness out. I also have a stuffed animal I sometime cuddle with.
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Mar 09, 2007, 06:39 PM
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How about getting in bed with a bunch of stuffed animals? I'm serious!
Do you like to draw? Pastels are good - they don't make a mess like paint... Do you like animals? Try watching some animals shows like on Animal Planet...
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Mar 09, 2007, 07:05 PM
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Jacq, I'm at a loss as what I could give you as a tip for a good coping mechanism or comforting, but you know you can talk to me whenever. I'll listen.
It's hard to get through the emotions of having to deal with someone being gone, especially when they're important to us. Much love to my friend. 
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Mar 09, 2007, 07:11 PM
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Thank you all for the great suggestions and responses. I actually do like to do art (with pastels, watercolours) but none of my things are with me ... i think i shall have to invest in some more for here! And I have a stuffed animal (bear) that my cousin gave to me ... so your right i can always cuddle up with him!
 (((((((((((hugs for everyone))))))))))
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Mar 09, 2007, 08:33 PM
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I can sympathize with the missing friend. My best buddy is moving a long (long) way away next month and I'm not sure what I'm going to do with myself when he goes.
Anyway, things that help for me are playing with my dogs or hiking with them if the weather is good. My labbie is the happiest creature on earth and you can't not smile watching him play. I tell people if I had half his joy in life, I'd be great! Or I ride my horse.... but that is a major cause of my current funk, I may not be able to ride him again, he's hurt. So that's killing me. But normally, a ride makes the world better. I like to do photography too, I can find the coolest stuff without going very far from home but I love to just randomly drive in a direction and see what I see. Painting watercolors is also a good thing. I can get lost in books too, sci fi or fantasy is my favorite. I have a ton of unfortunate habits that aren't the best, like bags of M&Ms. I need to figure out how to let some of those go. |
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Mar 09, 2007, 09:12 PM
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You can't do this all the time at will, but I like to sit in a warm patch of sunshine when it's there. That's another good one.
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W.Rose ~~~~~ “The individual who is always adjusted is one who does not develop himself...” (Dabrowski, Kawczak, & Piechowski, 1970) “Man’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions.” (Oliver Wendell Holms, Sr.) |
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Mar 10, 2007, 12:55 AM
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I like to pat a dog.
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