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Old Dec 03, 2014, 02:12 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about your losses There is no rational way to process loss that occurred in this manner. I too have lost several friends this way.. and first reaction that came to me was anger before I could even grieve. It will take time to heal Be good to yourself.

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Old Feb 12, 2015, 09:57 PM
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I am waiting for it to get better. It doesn't seem to get better, just worse.
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Old Feb 19, 2015, 06:18 PM
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it has been a year this past june i lost my husband to cancer he was my best friend an i just feel lost without him i just feel like im going on like a robot thats been programed to do the daily things going on.
22 years of bliss an now nothing yes i have my memories but thats not hugging me loving me or comforting me im just sad all the time.

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I know what you mean. My husband has only been gone a bit over 2months. We were married 39 years. I'm not sure what I would do if I didn't have my dogs. I have to take care of them. I miss him so much, and it's not getting any better. I'm still crying often, and also sad. We knew how sick he was but it's not something you can prepare for.
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Old May 12, 2015, 09:19 PM
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I am waiting for it to get better. It doesn't seem to get better, just worse.
i lost mine 8/12/15..9 mos. ago feels like 9 seconds ago, some days I am ok but most I just push on because after 42 years i know what he wants me to do but i got to want to find JOY,getting closer but it is so hard when you hurt so bad.
Praying for you and I..Good Luck
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Old Jul 02, 2015, 09:49 AM
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Waiting for nothing expecting nothing no joy, no hope. Feel like I'm drowning. There's no exit to this pain.
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Old Aug 19, 2015, 06:38 PM
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hi everyone,
I been through so many losses in my life its hard to imagine.just recently after the passing of my parents I loss my job last summer,my car 8 months ago,my choir director retired in May and my music director left this past weekend cuz of a new music director . im not ready to deal with the new music director cuz im dealing with the losses of two very important people in my life that made an impact on me over the past 15 years I been in choir. im seeing a therapist about my losses and she is a great help to me . how do I move forward from losing my choir director who retired she has been my confident over the past 15 years I have known her ?
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Old Aug 27, 2015, 04:13 AM
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hi docjohn,
that book sounds familiar to me. I took a class that was titled "Death and Dying" in high school . by the way im spring2014. I had many losses in my life . now im dealing with another loss cuz of my choir director who has just retired in May . im seeing a counselor now to help me get over my losses as well as my anxiety and depression . I was also traumatized by my dad who is now passed away after what he had done to me four years ago after my mom died in 2010 . im also on meds to help me with my anxiety and depression .I too am studying to become a counselor too in the near future.
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Old Jan 27, 2016, 04:13 PM
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Two weeks from today will be the ninth year since the day my eldest son was killed in his car, he was twenty-seven.
I still have very intense emotions about losing him, especially on this day, even nine years later.
I feel very guilty about saying or doing anything about him around this day as my living children do not want any reminders about it. They will celebrate his birthday, but refuse to grieve together on the day we lost him.
Last year I was severely reprimanded for posting on social media. This is something I'd done every year in addition to his birthday. I don't dwell on his death, but I need to keep this day to honor the fact that I miss him terribly, I miss who he would have been, who he would have married, what a great father he would have been, and wonder about the circumstances surrounding his death, as there is no information on what exactly happened to cause or precipitate the crash.
I just need to open up about this since I'm not going to be able to be myself.
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Old Mar 26, 2016, 03:33 AM
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Others can be very harsh in the demands put on others when it comes to politically correct grieving and often hold everyone to some imaginary acceptable protocol and or acceptable vs unacceptable behavior. Huh? Our relationships have unique dynamics that are powerful personal and private. Actions by anyone grieving should be left alone and acknowledged as coping and the business of how is not for anyone else to define or judge. Leave it where it belongs, in the heart where GOD is. Who should play GOD? There is no instruction on proper grief other than what's in your heart. I'd suggest you listen to the source most comforts you and feels right and request your loved ones to listen to their own as well.
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Old Nov 14, 2016, 02:54 AM
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I'm trying to deal/cope with the sudden death of my children's father and my soul-mate...... any help would be great... I'm pretty much alone , no one understand's..
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NO NaMES BUT IM LOSING TWO DEAR CLOSE PC FRIENDS OF MINE ...AND FEEL HELPLESS....ONE IS ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS AND LIVES IN ANOTHER COUNTRY AND THE OTHER HAS SOMETHING ELSE PHYSICALLY THAT IT WONT BE FAIR FOR ME TO SHARE RIGHT NOW...BUT I CANT ACCEPT IT...I CAN ACCEPT LOSING PEOPLE SINCE MOM PASSED WHEN I WAS 10...I DONT CARE IF I LOSE MATERIAL THINGS FOR THEY CAN BE REPLACED ...BUT MY FRIENDS,MY MOM,MY GRANDMOTHER AND COUSINS ONE WHO TOOK HIS LIFE A COUPLE YEARS AGO...THO GOING THROUGH PERIODS OF DEPRESSION MYSELF I UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID IT ...BUT THEY CANT BE REPLACED..IM TRYING TO BE STRONG FOR BOTH MY PC FRIENDS AND IM SURE THERE ARE SO MANY OTHERS ON PC WHO ARE SUFFERING ...I WISH I CAN TAKE ALL THEIR SUFFERING AND PAIN AWAY AND TAKE IT ON MYSELF SO THEY CAN LIVE LIFE AND BE HAPPY...I NEEDED TO WRITE ABOUT THIS AS ITS BEEN GOING ON THE PAST FEW MONTHS ..IVE TRIED EVERYTHING I CAN TO HELP MY FRIEND ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS BUT IM JUSTB NOT SMART ENOUGH...I CARE FOR BOTH OF THEM AND ALSO ANOTHER PC FRIEND IS GOING THROUGH ALOT ALSO...IF I COULD WRITE TO ALL MEMBERS OF PC AND TRY TO RELIEVE THEIR HURTING IN SOME WAY I WOULD...
ALSO MY hEART GOES OUT TO ALL ON THIS FORUM AND ALL ON PC WHO HAS LOST SOMEONE ONE WAY OR ANOTHER...WHY CANT I ACCEPT IT...? HOW CAN I STOP SOMEONES ILLNESS ? SOMEONE ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS? HOW CAN I HELP MY FRIENDS?.....THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME SHARE THIS ...
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Old Jul 13, 2018, 09:57 AM
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NO NaMES BUT IM LOSING TWO DEAR CLOSE PC FRIENDS OF MINE ...AND FEEL HELPLESS....ONE IS ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS AND LIVES IN ANOTHER COUNTRY AND THE OTHER HAS SOMETHING ELSE PHYSICALLY THAT IT WONT BE FAIR FOR ME TO SHARE RIGHT NOW...BUT I CANT ACCEPT IT...I CAN ACCEPT LOSING PEOPLE SINCE MOM PASSED WHEN I WAS 10...I DONT CARE IF I LOSE MATERIAL THINGS FOR THEY CAN BE REPLACED ...BUT MY FRIENDS,MY MOM,MY GRANDMOTHER AND COUSINS ONE WHO TOOK HIS LIFE A COUPLE YEARS AGO...THO GOING THROUGH PERIODS OF DEPRESSION MYSELF I UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID IT ...BUT THEY CANT BE REPLACED..IM TRYING TO BE STRONG FOR BOTH MY PC FRIENDS AND IM SURE THERE ARE SO MANY OTHERS ON PC WHO ARE SUFFERING ...I WISH I CAN TAKE ALL THEIR SUFFERING AND PAIN AWAY AND TAKE IT ON MYSELF SO THEY CAN LIVE LIFE AND BE HAPPY...I NEEDED TO WRITE ABOUT THIS AS ITS BEEN GOING ON THE PAST FEW MONTHS ..IVE TRIED EVERYTHING I CAN TO HELP MY FRIEND ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS BUT IM JUSTB NOT SMART ENOUGH...I CARE FOR BOTH OF THEM AND ALSO ANOTHER PC FRIEND IS GOING THROUGH ALOT ALSO...IF I COULD WRITE TO ALL MEMBERS OF PC AND TRY TO RELIEVE THEIR HURTING IN SOME WAY I WOULD...
ALSO MY hEART GOES OUT TO ALL ON THIS FORUM AND ALL ON PC WHO HAS LOST SOMEONE ONE WAY OR ANOTHER...WHY CANT I ACCEPT IT...? HOW CAN I STOP SOMEONES ILLNESS ? SOMEONE ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS? HOW CAN I HELP MY FRIENDS?.....THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME SHARE THIS ...
I know the feeling my mom past away on June 9th this year and I have had a very hard time handling it.Some days all I do is sit and cry it is just the way she wanted to die,she was 91 which was a good life but my dad passed away almost two years and ago and after that she didnt want to live anymore .Oh I have a dear friend matter of fact she is my best friend and doesnt want me to worry about her or nothing she even told me I worry to much well isnt worrying a big part of anxietes she says she has her husband ,like I feel like she is saying she doesnt need me you know what I mean? I do find that some people just dont want our help even though we love them for some reason they refuse our help.It can be so frustrating. You can talk to me anytime. I love all my friends and I want to help them all but some of them dont want my help I feel rejected and bad to because all I was trying to do is let them know that I care,
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Old Jul 19, 2018, 04:59 PM
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It has been about six weeks now I am still cannot handle my moms passing ,I feel like I am so lost.I miss her everyday she is a part of me because she is in my heart always,I loved her so much even though there were times she would make me very upset and angry .I know idid to her too,how long will this anger and depression last,people tell me it could be for a very long time,I miss you mom
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Old Jul 29, 2018, 06:58 AM
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It's been almost five months since my furbaby girl (cat) Ebony passed. She saved me.

I miss you still, sweetpea, I wish the bad stuff that you lived through never happened to you, you never deserved any of that.
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Old Jul 30, 2018, 10:42 AM
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It's been almost five months since my furbaby girl (cat) Ebony passed. She saved me.

I miss you still, sweetpea, I wish the bad stuff that you lived through never happened to you, you never deserved any of that.
I am so sorry for your loss.I remember when our cat died she was hit by a car a hit and run the neighbor brought her to us she tried so hard to make it to the couch she did but when she reached there she died because her ear was bleeding that person I wish I knew who did this to her.Animals are a big part of our family.
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Old Dec 03, 2020, 06:53 PM
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Im 56 years old,lost my aunt,my brother in law,my dad,my father in law and my mom...(on mothers day. All in 4 years. My moms been gone nearly 3 years,my dad,nearing 5. I still cant even text about them without my heart breaking,and tears puring.Ive lost several animals in that same period of time. It feels like theres no coming back from all of this. Ive been diagnosed manic depressive,bi polar didorder when i was in my late 20's. I dont grieve well,and im to this very day...still not handeling this AT ALL. Thanks for reading.
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Old Dec 23, 2020, 02:43 PM
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NO NaMES BUT IM LOSING TWO DEAR CLOSE PC FRIENDS OF MINE ...AND FEEL HELPLESS....ONE IS ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS AND LIVES IN ANOTHER COUNTRY AND THE OTHER HAS SOMETHING ELSE PHYSICALLY THAT IT WONT BE FAIR FOR ME TO SHARE RIGHT NOW...BUT I CANT ACCEPT IT...I CAN ACCEPT LOSING PEOPLE SINCE MOM PASSED WHEN I WAS 10...I DONT CARE IF I LOSE MATERIAL THINGS FOR THEY CAN BE REPLACED ...BUT MY FRIENDS,MY MOM,MY GRANDMOTHER AND COUSINS ONE WHO TOOK HIS LIFE A COUPLE YEARS AGO...THO GOING THROUGH PERIODS OF DEPRESSION MYSELF I UNDERSTAND WHY HE DID IT ...BUT THEY CANT BE REPLACED..IM TRYING TO BE STRONG FOR BOTH MY PC FRIENDS AND IM SURE THERE ARE SO MANY OTHERS ON PC WHO ARE SUFFERING ...I WISH I CAN TAKE ALL THEIR SUFFERING AND PAIN AWAY AND TAKE IT ON MYSELF SO THEY CAN LIVE LIFE AND BE HAPPY...I NEEDED TO WRITE ABOUT THIS AS ITS BEEN GOING ON THE PAST FEW MONTHS ..IVE TRIED EVERYTHING I CAN TO HELP MY FRIEND ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS BUT IM JUSTB NOT SMART ENOUGH...I CARE FOR BOTH OF THEM AND ALSO ANOTHER PC FRIEND IS GOING THROUGH ALOT ALSO...IF I COULD WRITE TO ALL MEMBERS OF PC AND TRY TO RELIEVE THEIR HURTING IN SOME WAY I WOULD...
ALSO MY hEART GOES OUT TO ALL ON THIS FORUM AND ALL ON PC WHO HAS LOST SOMEONE ONE WAY OR ANOTHER...WHY CANT I ACCEPT IT...? HOW CAN I STOP SOMEONES ILLNESS ? SOMEONE ABOUT TO BE HOMELESS? HOW CAN I HELP MY FRIENDS?.....THANK YOU ALL FOR LETTING ME SHARE THIS ...
I'm sorry that you are struggling right now. I do understand how you feel. It is hard.
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