[Humpty Dumpty]

First off I think there are a few different "categories" this could fall into. So if this isn't the right place I'm sorry.

What do you do when you and your spouse grieve in exactly opposite ways? My wife wants to be with me & not be alone when she grieves. Me I want to be left alone and not even be around anyone including my wife. I am not looking for a "she's wrong and you're right". I want to know how the best way to deal with this is? I should support her and be there for her when she needs me, but what about when I need to grieve as well?

[spondiferous]

Is your wife open to meeting you halfway? Like, have you explained to her what you need and told her you're willing to help her out when you can, but that you would appreciate having some space to have your own process? It can definitely be difficult to understand someone's process when it differs like that but if you haven't tried that there's a good chance it'll work. Or at least a good place to get the conversation going.