[SweetCrusader]

i've never posted in here before, and i don't really know what i'll say. i just know that i'm hurting really bad. my best friend just got engaged. the thing is, i've had feelings for this guy since i was eleven years old- no joke. we've grown up together. he was my first crush, and over the years i just really fell in love with him. although i don't think i'm "in love" with him anymore, i still love him so much! he got engaged yesterday. after 11 years of wishing on every shooting star that i would someday marry him, i have to give up hope. he has been there for me through some really, REALLY hard stuff in my life. he's been the only person in the world that i trusted at times. he's been the only thing i had any hope for in my life. now, he's gone. i'm already dealing with major stuff in therapy (abuse issues) and now i'm losing one of the most important people in my life. it hurts so much.

comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable

[wisewoman]

You may not have lost your friend. Why can't you still be friends? I have male friends and I am married, My husband has female friends. It depends on how comfortable his wife to be is with the idea. A strong friendship shouldn't end because of marriage. I am sorry your romantic dreams are not realized, that hurts. But friendship you don't have to lose.

[SweetCrusader]

we do have to lose the kind of friendship that we have. it was always colored by romantic undertones, inside jokes (often semi-romantic), and being eachother's best friend of the opposite sex. trust me if i had a husband, i would NOT allow a friend like me to stay around. you ever watch dawson's creek? we're kind of like dawson and the brown-haired girl (is is joey?).

comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable