Ashes

Wasn't really sure where to put this, here or Grief/Loss, sorry if this is the wrong forum.
Talks about death, sorry if it needs trigger icon.

Kate (my GF) and I are getting the ashes of our passed nephew, Vlad, soon.
We want to sprinkle them somewhere he used to really love.
It's just such a sad process- some unsupportive people said we were wrong not to go with a funeral.
Why can't they be civil and accept that maybe we have different beliefs to them?
I look forward to the day that everyone can accept each other and realize everyone deals with things in different ways. I would not tell someone else their way of doing something like this was wrong simply because I would do it differently.
Just sad that not only are people judging simply because we did not want a funeral, but because I miss him today. I wish people would think about how their words could hurt before they go and give them. It's not as if anyone is doing anything wrong. Have we not suffered enough already?
It's something I have a hard enough time talking about IRL, and it's sad that when I talk to people about it, I am not met with kindness I don't ask people to agree with me, but simply to accept and understand.

Peace everyone. Sorry if this seems pointless Just needed to share.

((((((((((((Griffe)))))))))))))))

It is important that you look after yourself right now in your grief. This is a personal matter for you and your family, noone else has a say in it .... ignore the people who are hurting you, you don't need them in your life .... gentle hugs sweetie, please take care and don't let others get you down .... and i will listen to my own advice for once on this matter

love Jinny xoxoxoxoxoxo

(((Griffe)))

I can't understand why people can't except other peoples beliefs until they do we'll have war.
Just want to share my experience before you make your final decision. My father was cremated, we still had a memorial service for him. Some of his ashes we,re spread in an area he loved. Some we're put small urns for each of his loved ones (the ones who wanted them). My sister had a small amount put in a special locket that the funeral home provided and prepared. I still have a small amount for when we go to our favorite vacation spot. There are lots of inexpensive ways to "remember" for this was an issue for use. Our paster was concerned that we would not have a place to grieve. I am still unsure of the decisions we've mad (and it's been six years) sometimes I wish we had a grave site to visit. Also can a person rest in piece when they are not properly placed? We were taught to believe that once we leave our bodies we are no longer of this earth, but sometimes I wonder. Just wanted to share some of my ideas and regrets while you are still deciding. I know this is a hard time, it's almost as if it's not really happening and it's hard to make a clear headed decision during these tuff times, and when you look back you might have some regrets (as I do now). I hope my response was not to morbid this is such a sensitive subject and if I have offended I am truly sorry. I am sorry for your loss.