his ashes

scattering him next month we cant go too muvch money like HE was never real either. at least she will be smiling with THEM for the mothers day

so what is the protocol for when they speread my fathers ashes next month. and we dont have the money to go to alabama. someday on the wind he will come here though we wont recognize it. how many cremonies does it take to say good bye ? his blood runs in our viens so we will never lose him here just his voice we miss him forever all our days already and the days we havent spent yet We had his memorial on his birthday in TX and the Union sent the biggest rubber plant and flowers we brought back north and put in the yard. oooopps! rambling

KathyAnita,

There are not enough ceremonies to say good bye and too many memories to ever forget. There is no protocol that I am aware of. It is your own time to grieve and remember.

Do what you feel will help you to get through this hard time. Your fathers ashes may come to you on the wind but his love is with you always.

My sympathy for your loss.

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KathyAnita,

It takes time to get through this. No protocols, no required feelings. You just have to do what it takes for you to get through it. Memories are with us forever even though you can't be at a ceremony. That is not the important part. Good byes are said long before any ceremonies.

I probably am not a good one provide suggestions at this time because I am not too far beyond where you are. I look back 4 months ago TODAY when my Mother died & all I see is dark. All the situations surrounding it drove me into the medical hospital with both medical & mental issues since I had no time to take care of myself, & got trapped into a situation that never should have happened.

However if there is one thing I took from all that happened is that you have to do what is necessary to take care of yourself above all, your feelings, your physical well being & all that is you .

Take care of yourself,
Debbie

thank you for your kindness.
Wish there were any child memories- we have none -we were deconstructed and erased and givennew identity by THEM. remember the couple times we were together after i found him 10 years ago- and him in deathbed. . . but theres a couple photos of him from when we were small and he was as tall as a tree...and 1 memory of how he almost got us back but the cops are taking us away with lights and sirens. . . sooo dark in here but the quiet doesnt start.

KathyAnita: i will hold you in my thoughts and send you vibes, that i hope will help you get through this period of grief and stress........xoxo pat

thank you Pat (there's your dog again so it wasnt imagined)