[Rhapsody]

I feel sad today...... as my oldest son's dog died some time in the early morning and it was not the death every one would have wanted for a fourteen year old loyal dog... he was hit by a car, well probably a semi as he was not found intact.

How am I to tell me 24 year old son that he his best friend died - let a lone that he got hit my a car?

I honestly do not know how he got to the road..... as we live 200-300 feet back off the main road and he is almost completely blind / deaf - and can barely get around as he is often disoriented... why didn't he stay with the other two dogs?

My youngest son and I search for an hour for him in the early morning hours (darkness) and we were not able to find our precious little Snu... we even walked along the side of the road in the middle of the night looking for him - and now it hurts that he was hit not but 50 feet from the drive way... my husband found him when he left for work this morning.

Speechless.

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I can only pray that the birth of my son's first baby in two weeks will help ease the pain of him losing his best friend - his first dog as a child.

[Rhapsody]

R.I.P. - Snu

[bebop]

oh hon I am so sorry!

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((((( Rhapsody )))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry that this happened.

I'm so very sorry. I lost one dog a couple years ago and my current pup is getting up there in age. It's a terrible feeling. My sympathies.

[Rhapsody]

Thanks every one... I just feel like a heel as I was the one that let the dogs out one last time before I went to bed, and I have to admit that I left them out a little longer than I usual would have.... they never wandered off before and we have lived here for 5 years.

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And sadly we do not have the body to bury as he was not found intact.

[sabby]

((((((((((((((( Rhap, snu, & son )))))))))))))))))))))

I'm so truly sorry for your loss. Such a painful thing to have happen.

Know that he didn't suffer.....know that you are not to blame....know that it was his time in whatever way and that now he is frollicking away, has his sight and his hearing and is happily playing and watching all who loved him from his special place.


sabby

[Danialla]

I am so sorry... but I know your son will understand. I am sure that he knows you loved snu as much as he did and that you hurt as much as he does.

Please take care of yourself....

I am so sorry.....

[Christina86]

(((((((((((Rhapsody)))))))))))))))

I'm sorry. Losing a pet is always hard, especially because they become part of the family.

((( Rhapsody and family )))

[blue_roses]

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i am so incredibly sorry for your family's loss! nothing hurts quite like the loss of beloved family pet. they love us unconditionally and so completely.

i know it seems tragic that there is no body to bury. but at least that does mean snu did not suffer. better the way he went, than to have been injured and wandered off to die.

you may want to buy a small statue or plaque to put in the yard in remembrance.

now little snu is happy and healthy and running and jumping and playing. and he'll be watching over your son and his family. a little doggie angel, for sure.

i'm so sorry.

[JimWriter]

That's so sad. I'm so sorry for you and your son.
I believe that, many years from now when it's time for me to die, I will re=experience and be reunited with my family and so many others in heaven. That also includes doggies, kitty cats, a bunny, a bird, a hermit crab and even some aquarium fish.

[LMo]

i'm so sorry Rhapsody

[Rhapsody]

Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers for my family..... my son has been told and he is heart broken, as was expected.

Now - to decide if my son should be told that Snu was hit by a car - or to let it be that he passed of old age.

This is hard decision for me (us) as my husband and I have never lied to our children and we would hate to start now..... and yet it breaks my heart as a mom to have to tell my son how his dog last breath was taken... not to mention that my son is already under a lot of stress - going to school full time, financial issues at school & home, expecting a baby in two weeks and working part time while in school.

What do you think?
.. save him from more heart break or tell him the truth?

BTW - my son has not asked how Snu died, and since the family did not offer any more info than what was asked my son is just assuming that is was old age that took Snu, as he was 14 years old.

My youngest son buried what parts we found on the street of the dog so his brother would not see it when he came to our house... I could not leave what was left of Snu in the street, I just couldn't.

[blue_roses]

wow that's a tough one! i typically wouldn't advocate not telling the truth..but...

if he doesn't ask, don't tell!

perhaps if he asks, you could answer with "you know snu was old, and dogs don't live forever." not actually saying he died of old age.

you have to know one day it will slip out and he'll find out the truth. but it may be easier to bear at a later date. and it's one of those fibs that he'll understand why you told.

like i say, i hate to tell anyone to lie to someone. but if it were me, i can't say that i'd rather know the gruesome details! i'd rather think my dog died a peaceful old-age death.

i would include your younger son in the decision. because you are asking him to be part of the fib as well. i'd definitely explain to him that you and your husband found this to be a hard decision to come to and that you never lie to them. etc. if he is not ok with the lie, then you'll need to tell the painful truth. but i'm sure he'll understand!

you could also choose not to tell him the truth now and purposefully wait six months or so. then sit him down. explain your reason for waiting. no one should have those images in their head around the birth of their child! just another option.

again, i'm very sorry you're having to go through this.

take care!

[Irine]

I`m so sorry!

I had in our family dog jeneration 3 dogs who died....

I know the feeling

hugs

[Irine]

I think don`t tell him now, tell him later when the stress is over.

[DocClyde]

(((Rhap)))

[Rose3]

very sorry about the loss of your dog
I'm sure that he is missed

[BalishBun]

I wouldn't tell him unless he asks. The dog did die, so no you have not lied. Thats the way I see it. If it helps, I want to tell you that my old dog could have been hit by a car the day my mom looked out the window to see her in the street. I had accidently left the back yard gate open, and my mom looked out the window to see her in the street. I am glad she was not hit, but I know what you mean, when you say you didn't understand how the dog made it all the way out to the street. My dog is about the same size as your Snu, she is 20 years old (im suprised shes still alive, 20 is oooold!!) and shes blind and deaf, Im sure she can see movement to some extent but she is so unaware of her surroundings! She can barely smell the food dish right in front of her, so you have to grab her head and put it near the food but being careful she doesnt eat your hand instead of the food.

[Rhapsody]

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Same with Snu... Thanks for the memories.

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My son stopped by the house tonight for a few hours... no one talked about the dog... so I let it be that way for now - he will talk when he is ready.

[Grammyj]

I'm so sorry. Losing a beloved pet is terribly hard, much less so traumatically.