[mortimer]

I feel bad to be posting topics so soon after I have registered, but last night I guess my great grandfather went to the hospital today and he has been having a heart attack for a week. He's 90, in weak health, and the doctors don't expect him to live through his surgery. If by chance he does, he has two months because of his kidney function.

My grandmother is who I am very worried about. She was widowed, and is a strong wonderful woman. But losing someone's father is hard, and I want to be able to support her the best I can, I love her very much. What is the best way for me to help her?

I'm not a touchy feely I share my feelings person, is there a way I can be there for her that will help her more then most things or something?

I appreciate any advice, and I'm sorry again.

[Mahali]

Mortimer,
Don't feel bad about posting. It is good to post.

As far as being there for your grandmother...I lost my father in November and the things I remember most are the people who were just there. They didn't do anything "special" they were just there.
Maybe you gould offer to help your grandmother with errands or cooking or some other tasks that seem simple but are hard when you are grieving or worrying.

Mostly just let her know you care and also take care of you. It is hard for you too.

Take care and we will be thinking of you. Let us know how you are doing.

[mortimer]

Thank you. :3 I don't really know what's happening. I don't have a car to go to the hospital on my own, and they don't tell me anything. He went out of surgery and he's still with us. The extent of what I've been told now is:

"He's in a lot of pain, he's still alive, I'm sure it will be fine."

So I have a feeling what's happening. o_o Thanks for the advice, I'll be sure to be there this weekend. I'm taking the leap and leaving the house tommorow to shop, so I'll get her a gift. Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it. *hug*