[Lexicon78]

How long should you try to conceive on your own before going to a doctor about it?

Me and my bf have been having unprotected sex for a year and still nothing. I even went to the OB-Gyn and was told on the day I went that if I went home that day and had sex, I'd get pregnant...still nothing.

[LMo]

wait - I thought you guys broke up? If your relationship is as rocky as you've described, is this really a good time to try to get pregnant?

But to answer your question, I wouldn't wait more than 3 months. It'll cause stress in your relationship if you wait much longer than that to find out what's going on and to make sure you're going about it the right way. Not sure how your ob-gyn could tell that you were about to ovulate, but even if all of the conditions are right and you are at your peak fertility, I understand there is still only a 25% chance that it'll "stick".

I've been using two methods to assess my fertility -- the basal body temperature (BBT) charting method and using the Clearblue Easy Ovulation Monitor. There are other methods such as monitoring the consistency of your cervical fluid, but neither that nor the BBT charting method work well for me, for various reasons, one being that my cycles aren't consistent.

You can chart your fertility cycles using free software at http://www.fertilityfriend.com

But I question whether it is a smart idea to try to conceive in your situation, I have to say. You've mentioned more than a few times that you can't support yourself without your bf, and you'd be up the creek if you also had to support a child on your own.

[Rhapsody]

Hmm - I would have to say after a year or two of trying, on a regular basis, that one should seek the advice of a doctor on this matter.... please know that a child needs a stable family atmosphere to grow up well balanced and without unneeded issues of their own.

~ Take-Care ~

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

P.S.
It took 1 1/2 years of having unprotected sex for my husband and I to conceive our first child.

[(JD)]

I think they suggest 2 years of educated trying

[LMo]

my doctor told me 6 months max before you get tested, etc. But then again, I'm a bit older and that had something to do with it.