[JohnFSK]

Hi there im john im new here and in need of abit of help.

This is very embarrasing for me to talk about.

Im 31 yrs old and for most of my life from 18 i suffered from acne up until about a year ago that all stopped at aged 30 and then my hair started thinning and going bald which i know shouldnt of ever been a issue as baldness doesnt run in family at all weve all got thick hair i did have but not now and also i have a erectile problem aswell which iv never usually had a problem with. During intercourse it just flops and wont go back no matter what i can accept the baldness but going limp all the time is not good at all its very embarrasing and damaged you i feel so low. Never in my life have i felt like this. Is it hormonal change i dont know depression? I dont know i did talk to a doctor all they did was give me viagra tablets thats not really good enough

Im sorry to bother people on here i known i shudnt but im stuck.

I do smoke i did quit for 2 months but because of all this iv started again im smoking around 10 per day used to be 20 help me!!!!

[Gus1234U]

hey John,, i know what you mean about embarrassing, things we're just not supposed to talk about, let alone experience~!

are you taking meds for depression ? cause those can cause all kinds of changes in your metabolism. they don't work the same for everyone. otherwise, i'd suggest asking your doc about hormone replacement therapy~ docs often just slap on the first bandaid that comes to hand, and don't want to deal with the complexities of hormone replacement.

wish you the best of luck~

[Skeezyks]

Hello John: I can't offer you any authoritative advise with regard to all of this. It sounds to me as though it could be some sort of medical problem... possibly something related to hormones. But that's just a guess on my part. I know you wrote you saw a doctor. But I wonder if it might not be appropriate to see an endocrinologist... someone who specializes in the treatment of hormonal problems.

Of course, it is possible that the baldness may be genetic I suppose. And the impotence you're struggling with could be psychological. Impotence tends to be a problem that feeds on itself I believe. You have a couple of instances of it & you begin to worry about it. And then the fact that you're worrying about it makes it all the more troublesome... and on it goes. If you've struggled with depression prior to developing your impotence problems, your impotence may be the result of your depression... (& anxiety too if that has been a problem for you in the past.) Seeking the services of a mental health therapist may be advisable if depression, & possibly anxiety, have been problems for you.

Since this is your first post here on PC... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[JohnFSK]

Would you advise that i see a doctor about this!? I dont take any medication for depression as iv never spoke to a doctor about been depressed tbh but maybe that is a part of it i could be depressed but thats all because of the problems?
I do have to take iron tablets as they wanted me to do a blood test and thought it could be thyroid releated but it turns out i had low iron but iv been on them a month now i ghink the best bet would be to go back and let it all out but its kind of barrasing to docthis as they seem to have a little laugh to them selfs.
Baldness i can deal with i dont mind that but its the other problem i cant ��

[*Laurie*]

Yes, definitely see a doctor. Good luck!

[(JD)]

I would suggest a nutritionist. Some of those things you shared are caused by deficiencies in minerals etc like...iodine or zinc for instance... you can research them online though, look for "natural" cures or nutritional remedy for ...xxx acne xxx baldness... and of course there are other causes for loss of libido/performance... and since you're here on a mental health site, yeah, that could be part of your problem too.

[crimsoncat]

hi , i know it is is easy for me to say , but try not to be embarrassed about this as there is no need .the doctors do not laugh about it at all they treat it the same as any other medical problem and it is actualy much more common than many people think i know this for a fact from my previous profession.good luck getting the help you need.

[mctone]

Depression and anxiety can cause ED, so can Hypertension (high blood pressure), elevated "bad" cholesterol, low testosterone, and a huge wad of other, normal things. This is so common among men as the get older (and I don't mean 90!). All you have to do is watch tv to see a million adds for viagara, cialis, etc. Definitely start with your family doc, but also ask about some of the things I mentioned above (hypertension, cholesterol, low testosterone, etc, but also ask about treatment for depression. If you don't get results from your GP, get referrals to specialists in these fields. There's help out there, seek it out!

Above all, don't be embarrassed for speaking openly here; that's what we're all here for, to help and to be helped!

[Yoda]

Perhaps you need to change the way you think about baldness. It is seen as a positive trait among many men.

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[Zukodyn]

Originally Posted by mctone

Depression and anxiety can cause ED, so can Hypertension (high blood pressure), elevated "bad" cholesterol, low testosterone, and a huge wad of other, normal things. This is so common among men as the get older (and I don't mean 90!). All you have to do is watch tv to see a million adds for viagara, cialis, etc. Definitely start with your family doc, but also ask about some of the things I mentioned above (hypertension, cholesterol, low testosterone, etc, but also ask about treatment for depression. If you don't get results from your GP, get referrals to specialists in these fields. There's help out there, seek it out!

Above all, don't be embarrassed for speaking openly here; that's what we're all here for, to help and to be helped!

There's another common denominator for low testosterone and cardiovascular issues that are "so common among men as the get older (and I don't mean 90!)."

One reason for low testosterone is a large percentage of men (35+ years of age) are on cholesterol-lowering statin drugs which inhibit the production of cholesterol, the base material for testosterone production, lowering the synthesis and level of testosterone (see Figure 7 of this scholarly article at The Dangers of Cholesterol-lowering Agents like Statins or Garcinia Cambogia Extract: Diabetes & Low T). Statin drugs are also linked to Erectile Dysfunction (among many other serious issues) because they feed the production of arterial calcification (see Figure 8 in the article above).

Statins cause tremendous harm but provide a tiny benefit, if at all.