No Mincing Words Here

Before I start...I want to say my daughters in control of this situation. There's a boy in her class that has liked her since last year. He has ADHD and several others challenges in his life. He has been pursuing my daughter off and off since the beginning of the school year.

He ask her to go out with him and be his GF and she said "no thanks". The following week, he put a gold chain with a note that said "this is for you". She found out it was from him and she politely gave it back sayng "since I'm not your GF it wouldn't be right to acccept this, so please take this back".

He asked her last Friday if she could go to some sort of legion fuction and again she said "no I don't want to go". Yesterday when my daughter was on Facebook he left a message for her stating: "I would like to have sex with you, marry you one day and have 2 children". She blocked him from her account.

Excuse me while I rant a bit here. I'm wondering is this how things are with todays young people or is this an unusual situation? What happened to being subtle and polite. Does he think, if he makes it clear he has good intentions, that this will convince her to like him??? I've taught my daughter about being nice if she has to reject a boys advances, so I guess it's time for her to be more blunt. I'm not worried about her safety because she can handle herself.

My son was diagnosed with ADHD at the young age of 7, he was very sexually active in his head which is from what I gather fairly common in ADHD kids so I am not shocked at his sexual comment.

Also my son would of taken an age to get the message that he was not wanted.

This is not making life for your daughter easy and its not fair I am sorry that she is having to go through this but perhaps you can explain the ADHD factor to her and she will have to be consistant with her no's and if this does not work maybe a word in the teachers ear if only to make her / him aware of the situation.

Hugs to you both.

As Tishie suggested, I suspect these may have something to do with his behavior. Even without specific diagnoses, one can become quite desperate for love...

Thank you Tishie and Pachyderm - I feel more at peace after knowing his adhd is most likely affecting his bluntness. I also know he has many other challenges in his homelife and that's why I didn't get automatically mad about this. I feel better now.

Also, if there is an adult or teacher that he is close to they may be able to help. Something similar happened to me in college. I went to his favorite teacher, not as a tattle tale but honestly seeking advice. The teacher was able to coach me in saying things in ways the guy could better understand. The teacher also started doing some gentle social skills training on his end but never told the guy why. He set it more as a mentor thing.