What would you do?

Say you break up with your bf, and a few weeks later find out that you're pregnant. Would you tell him, or be completely selfish and keep the baby to yourself?

Hello, JustWantToBeNormal. I think you have to tell him. There are many good reasons for doing so. In my view, not telling him will come back to bite you down the road.

You need to tell your ex-bf. Otherwise what are you going to tell the kid when he/she asks? This is no longer about you, it is about what is best for your baby.

Yes, baby will someday need to know who his or her parents are.

Not only for a sense of identity
but what if your child and ex want a parent/child relationship--children deserve that
medical history of ex may play a role for your child someday
child deserves his financial support

You would be hurting your child more than your ex by keeping secrets

Only if it wasn't a physically abusive would I tell him.

you should tell him. he needs to be part of the childs life, and you need his support to help raise the child.

For me, I think it would depend on the nature of the breakup, where each of us live, what we are doing in our lives and why I do/do not want to tell this person I am pregnant as well as my perception of the character of the other person. The abruptness of "a few weeks later" would bother me, sounds like there was sex and then a quick, perhaps angry breakup without much communication.

You need to tell him, it's not about you anymore....it's about what's best for baby