[stressedmama]

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, if not I apologize...
My daughter is out of state visiting her dad for the summer. He lives with his girl friend and her 2 sons ages 8 & 10. Recently my daughter told me of some very disturbing things going on. The 8 year old has been going around to her and flashing his penis at her, rubs himself in front of her and says "I'm rubbing my d#$%, I'm rubbing my d#$%!", he tries to pull down her and her sisters shirts, their pants, touches and grabs their butts and chests.... and when she yells at him, or tells her dad or his mom, SHE gets yelled at and gets in trouble!!! They yell at her and tell her "you know you need to be patient with him, you know he has issues!!!" (his dad was killed due to complications from injuries sustained by being blown up in Iraq a year or 2 ago). Yes this sucks. And I feel for them. But these are not issues caused by that trauma.....right?! My child is being sexually abused/assaulted by this kid right? Apparantly there are other things that are going on too that she hasn't told me (I told her to document everything and email me this documentation), she told me there are things on there I don't know about yet. she is scared that her Dad or the the gf will find out and make her life even more hell there. I'm going to contact an attorney to see if I can go get her and take her home (she wants to come home!) but this IS considered sexual assault though correct? Please help me!! My baby girl is in hell, with nobody there supporting her!

[glok]

Hello, stressedmama. I hope you are able to get your daughter out of that horrible place posthaste.

Please please get her out of there ASAP

[Travelinglady]

I don't think this behavior is normal for an 8-year-old. I think he has been abused and/or exposed to pornography. Probably more likely the pornography. This kid needs therapy, in my opinion.

I agree that you need to find a way to get your daughter out of this environment.

[winter4me]

Do what it takes to get her out. And let her know it is NOT OKAY. She has every right to be upset, and angry. ((you, or she could even call protective services local to her dad's...if need be))

[googley]

You need to call CPS for where your child is staying. You need to report to them what your daughter has told you. Where I live, you not reporting this could come back on you as failure to protect. Yes also contact your lawyer, but contact CPS now! What is going on with your daughter is sexual assault. You need to get them help ASAP. She can also make the call, but she may not be comfortable doing that. So you need to do it to protect her.

[Victoria'smom]

Yes this is sexual abuse and needs to be reported.

[stressedmama]

Thank you so much for your support and confirming what I already knew...but I guess as a mother, just needed subconsciously needed an outsiders voice to tell me I wasn't just being an overprotective mama. I'm going to contact the attorney 1st thing Monday. I'm going to get my daughter OUT of the disgusting environment if its the last thing I do!!! Oh my poor kiddo!! =*(

[Mike_J]

Do what you need to do to get your daughter out of there, and by that I mean drive and get her. Don't let your ex know you are coming, and be careful about how you communicate that you are doing this to your daughter, just to help make sure that your ex doesn't find out.

Once you get her home contact child services in YOUR state, you are going to be in for a bit of a fight, but if you are going to fight, do it in your home state, with your daughter in your custody. Let your ex take you to court, let your daughter tell her story to the proper authorities.

[Mike_J]

OK, on the drive call your lawyer and child protective services in the state where you daughter is, but as a parent I would not let my child stay in a situation like that.

[cureav]

I'm sorry for that, hope you'll resolve that situation soon and your daughter will be safe.
I'm so tired of parents who don't want to acknowledge sexual development in children as a normal thing and make that a taboo or blocking it rather than teach them how to direct their urges...

[dottom]

Please get her out of there immediately! She needs to know you will move heaven and earth to protect her. Go there now! Get a hotel or stay with family or friends if you have to. Pick her up, tell you ex you missed her or something if you have to. Definitely call a lawyer, call cps etc but don't wait for people to "call you back", don't accept anything other than yes we are getting her out now! There is no such thing as overreacting when it comes to this situation! Hugs and praying for you and your girl!

[jimmy rich]

Originally Posted by stressedmama

The 8 year old has been going around to her and flashing his penis at her, rubs himself in front of her and says "I'm rubbing my d#$%, I'm rubbing my d#$%!", he tries to pull down her and her sisters shirts, their pants, touches and grabs their butts and chests.... and when she yells at him, or tells her dad or his mom, SHE gets yelled at and gets in trouble!!! They yell at her and tell her "you know you need to be patient with him, you know he has issues!!!" (his dad was killed due to complications from injuries sustained by being blown up in Iraq a year or 2 ago). Yes this sucks. And I feel for them. But these are not issues caused by that trauma.....right?

I am not a shrink but I can see how some disturbing things could be possible after such a trauma but I would not allow that trauma to excuse the boy's misbehavior.

My child is being sexually abused/assaulted by this kid right?

I would say YES!

Apparantly there are other things that are going on too that she hasn't told me (I told her to document everything and email me this documentation), she told me there are things on there I don't know about yet. she is scared that her Dad or the the gf will find out and make her life even more hell there. I'm going to contact an attorney to see if I can go get her and take her home (she wants to come home!) but this IS considered sexual assault though correct?

I would say that it is!

Please help me!! My baby girl is in hell, with nobody there supporting her!

If this were my problem, I'd go to any extremes to go bring my child back home. Then I'd ask CPS to go examine that disturbed family.
good luck,
jim