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Default May 29, 2018 at 05:54 PM
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I am pleased that they are going to do another assessment with somebody who understands mental health issues. It's one thing to know about physical constraints and entirely another to understand mental health health problems and the impact that they also have on how we function or not.

Maybe today can be a day of rest as it seems you have done heaps to get you this far.

Good to know that you have more people in your corner and that the MP and his office were doing things despite their lack of communication.
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Default May 30, 2018 at 04:48 PM
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Yes,thanks Possum,I did rest today went and had a meal at the pub and saw a film.

I have decided to take one day at a time,try and be more patient and try to stop worrying.Even if they refuse me again and I have to manage on a lot less money worry isn't going to help it will make matters worse.

Friday I am going to collect my medical records and send them to the benefits people and request if they have enough evidence to do me a paper based assessment instead of another f2f assessment.I have said if they insist I will have another f2f but want an award like the old DLA one and can't understand why they would refuse me when my conditions remain unchanged.My care and mobility needs remain unchanged.

And Friday June 8th I am going to see my MP and meet him and talk to him about my benefits claim in person,give him a copy of my letter of complaint to Atos so he will be fully aware of the ins and outs of my case.

I need to schedule in plenty of rest time because I am physically exhausted and that is leading to a deterioration of my mental health yet again.
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Default May 30, 2018 at 04:57 PM
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You're right! Worry helps nothing! I am working at keeping my worry in check with my husband until the surgeon has told me something has changed and that won't be until after the surgery or even three days after that. Keep steady and even, not too high, not to low.

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Default May 31, 2018 at 10:55 PM
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Yay - Meal at the pub and no dishes to wash. Hope you enjoyed the movie.
Sounds like you are still doing heaps to get this resolved. The weekend sounds like a good time to take a mental break from this and put it all from your mind and maybe go and have a cup of tea with your Mum and no talk of benefit issues.
Breathe.......
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Default Jun 01, 2018 at 12:23 PM
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I have found some peace now.If I have to be assessed again I am ok with that,what harm can it do it might help even.Yesterday I went to the GP and collected my medical records and photocopied them and sent them in to the benefits people,saying I will have the assessment if I have to but could they do a paper based assessment if with these medical records there is enough evidence to....I now await a reply from them.
I said the same to my MP to help me get an award without another assessment.I sent him the emails that I sent him and that he says he didn't get and a cover letter thanking him for opening a file with the DWP to help me.

Just a matter of waiting now and no point worrying like you say Deejay.I hope things go well health wise for your husband and yourself.You might try these websites for cancer and diet...Chris Wark Square One program...google that and www.canceractive.com Best wishes to you both.

Yeah I am going to take a break from benefit troubles now...going to see my mum Tuesday Possum and am gardening this weekend and going to see another film.Today I have been resting cos I got exhausted yesterday.
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Default Jun 02, 2018 at 02:40 PM
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I took a break from it all today.I went and saw the new Star Wars film,it was action packed and I enjoyed it,I won't say more I don't want to spoil it for you if you are going to see it.Ron Howard directed it.I ate a curry at the pub after and had a drink or two.I am home now putting my feet up!It is good not to think about or worry about benefits for a while.
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Default Jun 03, 2018 at 04:48 AM
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I am glad that you were able to have a planned break. Thanks for not telling us the plot. Last Stars Wars movie I wanted to see was ruined when some-one who gave away a major story line.

I am sure it will be good to have some time in the garden and see your Mum soon.
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It is a good film and it did not let the franchise down is all I will say about the new Star Wars film Solo.I hope that you enjoy it when you go see it Possum.I am having an ok weekend,if not a bit hot and tiring,getting things done slowly.I cut the grass at the back today but didn't get anything else done.Tomorrow I want to vacumne,get the washing up done and do some weeding of the borders at the back and I also have to put the bins in place for the binmen to collect on Tuesday.If it is too hot again I might not get it all done though they reckon it will be cooler tomorrow I don't know though!
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Default Jun 09, 2018 at 06:58 PM
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Even though I sent my medical records in to the benefits people they are still insisting that I have another face 2 face assessment.They have changed the date of the assessment from 19 June to the 22 June which is a Friday,two weeks away.I am waiting patiently but will be glad when it is done.Hopefully they won't refuse me benefits this time.
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Default Jun 12, 2018 at 12:38 PM
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My Member Of Parliament's office manager was in touch over my benefit situation.I complained cos I'd asked him to intervene to get me a standard award and all he was doing was relaying benefits office's standard replies.I complained that he hadn't done anything and that all I had achieved so far I had achieved on my own.He replied that they can't just intervene to get me an award as they are not medically qualified to say and assess me,so I just have to follow the benefits office procedure.So I said that is what I will do and can he find out of they refuse me again on reassessment can I still do an Mandatory Reconsideration and an Appeal and I thanked him for all he had done so far.

So that is it I do have to have another assessment.Fingers crossed.Nine days until the 22 June when I will be reassessed.They gave me my last payment today,it was a week short so I was Ł80 down on the total I should have got.My ESA money will go down next payment too in two weeks time.I am going to struggle.
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Default Jun 14, 2018 at 04:33 PM
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From tomorrow there is a week to go until my assessment,June 22,Friday!
I hope it goes well! Wish me luck.
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I believe it will go better this time!

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Default Jun 16, 2018 at 03:35 PM
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Sunday tomorrow,that means five more days to wait then it's my 2nd PIP assessment...I am anxious and nervous,I am hoping that it goes ok,more than ok,really well!
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Sunday afternoon here now. Wishing you the very best of luck that things will work out for the better this time.
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Only two days to go!
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Good luck Marilyn. I hope it goes well.
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It is friday 6.24am...my assessment is between 10am and 12pm.
Last three days I have been really ill,my diabetic blood sugars were too high and that set of a virus infection,I felt really exhausted and had no energy,and my depression was really bad.I was anxious too.I was told by my legal team not to make an extra special effort with the housework to let them see how I can't always manage but I had to vacume cos the bits on the floors were attracting flies and I had to sort the cat litter so it didn't smell.I was told not to was my hair too but there was no way cos it had been hot and I'd been sweating and it stunk.I mean if their view is that if you are ill you don't do housework at all and don't wash when you need to even though you do so with difficulty, it is ridiculous,I can do some chores but it is exhausting and I am not well after exerting myself,it doesn't mean I am not ill.

I have a long time to wait till 10am maybe 12pm until the assessor turns up.I am trying to remain calm and keep my anxieties and fears at bay.I just want it done and this time hopefully the assessor will be more understanding.
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