[-jimi-]

I actually don't care if I'm called he or she. (Even if real life people do call me by my biological pronoun so it kind of mostly happens online.) I guess maybe it's because I'm more genderqueer than TS. I assume a TS would feel more hurt be called the wrong thing. But now I notice that both agenders and androgynous people want their own pronouns.

What is the most common gender neutral singular pronoun in English? (Even if it is not accepted as a word.)

In my Scandinavian language we have a new word which basically is a construct, which can be used both for when you do not know someones gender, or that you don't care which gender and also to be used for people not male not female. I was very skeptical at first, I liked the idea but I didn't like the word. I thought that will never take... But it did and it is used more and more! So I'm getting used to it.

As taught the Queen's English, I shudder when someone calls one person "they", even if I do it myself now. (Language rubs off on me super easy.)

When you are called the wrong pronoun, how do you feel? Like I say, I think I feel OK, but maybe I'm just USED to it?

One thing that really bugs me is when someone calls a pet "it" if they don't know the sex of it, and sometimes when they do. I feel that is objectifying a living being. Still, it would be cool if people would refer to me as "it". LOL.

People have used male pronouns for so long, when referring to me, that it would feel strange if someone used something else. And, typically, they never do. But last autumn I was walking our pooch in a local park. As I recall I was wearing a hat with a wide brim (kind-of an Australian style bush hat) & a hooded sweatshirt. We passed a young African-American man walking alone. He wasn't paying much attention to me. I said: "Good morning." And he replied: "How you doin' momma..." It felt oddly wonderful. I was pleased...

[TheSeamster]

When someone uses the wrong pronoun, I usually just correct them, but if they keep doing it I start to feel uncomfortable. After awhile I start to question myself and who I am. It's probably my Anxiety talking, so that's why it bothers me. And 'they' is very strange singularly, yes, but no matter how off someone elses pronoun can sound, I always try to get it right and rmember because I assume it feels the same to others as it does to me to be misgendered. I don't blame anyone for not liking 'they', heck, I like xe way better. But it's harder to get cis and binary people to use xe. So they is a pretty good fall back.

And yeah, 'it' is for inanimate objects, not living things. Can't stand when people use it, especially with people. The lamp is an 'it', the dog is a she, and I am a xe.

[Grey Matter]

I feel uncomfortable if I am misgendered on purpose.

It's important to me because it is my identity. And I don't like it being messed with. eh.

[Rand.]

I don't like being misgendered. They're seeing me for someone I'm not, and all the expectations that go with it. That's why I don't like it. It happens all the time for people who know me. Strangers get it right most of the time.