[Elio]

So.. almost 2 weeks post top surgery. I am good with my chest and do not miss my old chest at all. The weird thing is that I still feel like I should not go shirtless/topless. Wife talks about indoctrination of social rules...that after some age it is not appropriate as a girl (in USA) to be shirtless. To which I said, yeah at about age 7. I guess the thing I find is odd, is that I don't usually think of myself feeling like a girl and yet this is completely a girl response...it feels girl.

[Skeezyks]

Old habits die hard, as they say. Anyway...congratulations on your successful surgery!

[Albie]

I agree the old habits are difficult to completely let go. I am going the other direction. I had male breast augmentation. So while I'm a male I now have noticable female boobs. Prior to surgery I didn't think much about not being able to go shirtless. Actually thought it would be cool to have to wear a swim top. Now that I have boobs I feel very apprehensive / self conscious going to the beach or even a pool. Very surprised to have these feelings as I thought I would be more looking forward to it.

[Albie]

very true it seems the longer we are programed it takes time for us to adjust. This is a older thread so I was wondering how you are doing now that you can go shirtless

[Veeda]

This has been one of my personal hang ups for years and has negatively impacted previous relationships

[Veeda]

This has been one of the areas I have always struggled with. I can completely empathize with any guy that has issues concerning this area. I would love to be able to have the freedom and self confidence to go shirtless in public or at the pool or beach but my BDD and OCD have always put up barriers that have kept me from doing so without reservation...hope all turns out for you the way you would like

[Albie]

Originally Posted by Veeda

This has been one of the areas I have always struggled with. I can completely empathize with any guy that has issues concerning this area. I would love to be able to have the freedom and self confidence to go shirtless in public or at the pool or beach but my BDD and OCD have always put up barriers that have kept me from doing so without reservation...hope all turns out for you the way you would like

This can be difficult hae you had any success in dealing with your situation?

[Veeda]

Not really it has come to the point where it is debilitating I think a lot has to do with my struggles with BDD

[Albie]

I am trying to find some help so I can feel more comfortable in all situations for the most part like I was right after my surgery

[Veeda]

Originally Posted by Albie

I am trying to find some help so I can feel more comfortable in all situations for the most part like I was right after my surgery

What kind of surgery did you have? An augmentation or reduction? What happened since your surgery that has made you uncomfortable? I personally wish I could stop my negative perception of myself from keeping going topless...if you ever need to chat you can hit me up I hope things start to look better for uou

[Albie]

Hi Veeda
thanks would enjoy a chat with you on the subject, also feel free to PM me when you see me in here or on line. I had male breast Aug surgery done awhile ago. while I was very pleased with the results, I had a Panic attack at my sister's house while at her swim party. It was the first time at a pool since my surgery and I was really looking forward to going and I guess showing off a bit. anyway I had an attack my first ever, not sure why or what caused it but since then I have been very self conscious of my situation.

[Veeda]

Originally Posted by Albie

Hi Veeda
thanks would enjoy a chat with you on the subject, also feel free to PM me when you see me in here or on line. I had male breast Aug surgery done awhile ago. while I was very pleased with the results, I had a Panic attack at my sister's house while at her swim party. It was the first time at a pool since my surgery and I was really looking forward to going and I guess showing off a bit. anyway I had an attack my first ever, not sure why or what caused it but since then I have been very self conscious of my situation.

I know I get a high level of anxiety myself around any type of swimming pool activities. I wish it were not the case but I guess my insecurities take root.

[Albie]

That's kinda how I feel now, which is so not like not me