Yesterday sucked. Weight and T vent, mostly.

As a bit of background, I'm non-binary, I consider myself FtN, and I've decided to seek a medical transition. I've met with my specialist a few times now and said I was ready to try a low dose testosterone. Although... He refuses to give me any hormones until I lose around half my body weight. I'm currently 120kgs (I've lost 25kgs this year already) and he wants me to lose another 60, to bring me down around 60-65kgs. Which, I understand why he wants me to lose SOME weight, but that much?

It's literally impossible for my body to carry less than 80kgs. I have a very broad Maori build, so I was -thin- at 80kgs. 60kgs would be dramatically underweight for me. And to top it all off, my weight loss has come a complete halt, 25kgs is the most I can shift. I've done everything, literally. I've had weight loss surgery (twice), done ketogenic diets, done weight loss shakes/meal replacements, I work out for at least 8 hours a week, I keep my calories between 800-1000 as per my surgeon's instructions... But I can't lose a single kilo more than I have, I haven't lost anything for around 4 months now. How am I supposed to lose 60kgs? I'm so heartbroken, I don't want to be 'female' me any more.

Any chance you can seek another specialist? It's not promising if your current doesn't listen to you about the weight loss methods you've tried, and the limitations of your body.

I've met many (over 60) FTM individuals, and their weight was never a problem. Many of them weighed way over 125kgs.

It's time to see another specialist. Weight should not be a factor when transitioning.

I've never heard of such a thing. It's completely unreasonable. Tbh, it kinda sounds like he's trying to make it impossible for you.

I'm with them ^ Time to see someone else.