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#1
Nov 21, 2007, 03:35 AM
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approx three weeks ago and for some time prior to that, my cousin was raped, amongst other things. a trial is upcoming.
maybe its just something when it hits this close to home. i'm angry, i'm depressed. sometimes a lost world. but something tells me to keep smiling. and so i try. |
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#2
Nov 21, 2007, 11:17 AM
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(((Nowhere)))
My prayers and best wishes for her and of course, for you too.
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#3
Nov 21, 2007, 12:40 PM
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thanks Clyde... your words mean very much to me at this time. if i may ask, what does SAVE_US.DRC and SAVE_US.K29 ? refer to?
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Nov 21, 2007, 01:36 PM
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Something like 3/4 girls and 3/5 is sexually abused in this country. It is hard when it happens in your own family. Of course you're going to feel many many things like anger and depression, even hopelessness. Was the rapist in the family, or not related? I'm sure the child's parents (if they're not the abusers) need a lot of support too. You'll get through this, but it's going to be rough. If your little cousin gets good therapy, they'll learn how to manage.
Man, it sucks, though. I'm so sorry this has happened in your family.
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#5
Nov 21, 2007, 01:57 PM
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I appreciate your kind words and support "keys". I am continuing to process my situation as we speak. The depression lifts at times and then crashes down again. I believe I have the anger pretty much under sontrol. Thankksgiving will be an issue. I'm tempted to relax, smile, and enjoy the moment.
Happy Thanksgiving All nowhere out... |
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#6
Nov 21, 2007, 03:16 PM
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nowhere, I was sexually abused as a child and I want you to know that I wish I had someone like you offering support. I'm also glad to hear it's going to trial. Though it will be tough, I suspect it will help your cousin get closure later in life.
Cyran0
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My blog: http://cyran0.psychcentral.net/ Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD (childhood physical/sexual abuse), history of drug abuse. Meds: Zoloft, Lorazapam, Coffee, Cigarettes "I may climb perhaps to no great heights, but I will climb alone." -Cyrano de Bergerac |
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#7
Nov 21, 2007, 05:19 PM
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Nowhere,
The save us stuff is more just a sig line (one from a wrestler: the avatar), the sig is my variation: save_us. drc (doctor c, as in doctor clyde--not a doc yet but will be--more a play on words)... Its horrible that anyone would be raped or abused. 
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Nov 23, 2007, 05:00 AM
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#9
Nov 23, 2007, 10:47 AM
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think you'll be an awesome dr. Clyde
 thanks for your support Jinny... since this is Mens' forum it may get removed, but i saw it and felt it... thanks for being there... wishing you well also 
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#10
Nov 23, 2007, 11:30 AM
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nothing much new to report on the trial.. waiting for appearance dates... waiting to meet with social services re: my young cousins placement...
spent the day with her older brother yesterday... only 21, but the guy can still teach me things... there's reasons for everything... alot of things, but just one Reason... God... i have Faith... Peace to All |
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#11
Nov 23, 2007, 09:14 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
nowheretorun said: think you'll be an awesome dr. Clyde </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> Thanks very much...I wish your cousin didnt have to go through what she did... Hopefully the torment and pain she experiences is small and she doesnt go through much...
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#12
Dec 06, 2007, 09:10 AM
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the latest news is that her paternal grandparents have arrived from Russia... he is employed by the state dept., (other details are top secret) ... so there is a chance my cousin will be staying with them now..
this family is so resilient... the girls mother has the strength of 10 lions... |
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Dec 06, 2007, 10:39 PM
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Dec 06, 2007, 10:41 PM
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thank you Jinny... i appreciate your kindness through all this... i need a lot of strength...
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Dec 24, 2007, 12:53 AM
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the paternal grandparents received custody ... they will return to Russia when the papers go thriugh but it might be some time still... meanwhile, the daughter (rape victim) is living with relatives approx 60 miles away... she's in good hands...
the mother is charged with two misdeameanors of child abuse .. i'm hoping she receives a light sentence and a good lesson... she was offered and rejected a plea bargain, i think she intends to take her case to jury... no news on the male accised of the molestations... out on bail last i heard... one little girl will be absent this Christmas.... no blue eyes, no pouty face, no dance and sing... |
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Dec 24, 2007, 06:36 PM
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Hey Nowheretorun. Im so sorry about this.
If there is anything I can do to help. I willl trust me. Thinking about you today. Colleen
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Dec 24, 2007, 07:47 PM
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((((((((((((((Jinny and Colleen)))))))))))))) thank you... thanks for caring ...
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Jan 01, 2008, 10:05 PM
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Run I read this post of yours a bit ago,,,, I was not in good place at that time for my thoughts were PURE hate and revenge >>>>> Now I say This .......... [[[[[[[[[[[ lets you rest here, and lean ]]]]]]]]]]]]]]]. |
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#19
Jan 01, 2008, 10:14 PM
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thanks WMD... Friend ...
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Feb 07, 2008, 01:45 AM
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whats been hardest through this, besides the affect on the daughter, is the non-communications between myself and the mother...
i see her at the grocery store where she bags groceries when i shop there.... she looks tired, stessed... i dont know how she manages... she wont let us do much for her, independent as hell... i try to help, but, her mind becomes frazzled and mixed with thoughts from many places at once... my heart feels such pain for her conflict... on the other hand, communication and my mom has improved thru this... it brought us closer together.... she made promises to the mom's mm... my mom's cousin.... to care for the kids after the cancer took her from us... then, in the following turmoil, the daughters dad drank some rum, did some coke, and smacked the little girls mothers face purple... so, he went to jail.. subsequently skidded out of town.... long story there... the little one lost gramma nd dad pretty close to each other... then this.... |
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#21
Feb 07, 2008, 04:04 PM
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(((nowhere)))
My deepest sympathies and best wishes...
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#22
Feb 07, 2008, 10:40 PM
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thanks Clyde... it matters that im being heard here...
about the mom... the daughters mom... she was always distant in the family.. kind of the one none of us understood... she lived away from us... got onto fringe group spirituality... lived in ways the rest of us thought was different and unusual... i connected with her cause i felt 'out there' myself... just needing understanding, connection... to know i belonged somewhere... i made a choice... i didnt feel right about her outsider status and wanted to boost her feelings of connectedness.. i began to talk with her more, listen to her ideas... she carried a lot of conflicting beliefs... some i would not follow, some i did... just to show she was understood, included, cared about.. i do feel i failed in ways... |
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#23
Feb 08, 2008, 10:10 PM
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We all always feel that we fail with things such as this. Sadly, there is always a TON of time to look back after things have happened and wish that we have done this or that different--yet we can work from now to the future, and hopefully make sure that that is better than our past and present...
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#24
Feb 09, 2008, 06:06 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
we can work from now to the future, and hopefully make sure that that is better than our past and present... </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> thats exactly what i'm working on Clyde... thanks for your support : ) |
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