[LUTE20]

I am not the type of person who wants attention. I don't like drama or anything like that. People say I am a narc. But I think that's just my avoiding bad situations like with people who confront I tend to steer away because I react more physically than anything. What I am wondering mostly for narcs what type of like thoughts when you are confronted with someone who wants to argue with you? And I'm wondering how much restraint do you have?

Are people really called "narcs" as much as people write here??(Hard for me to believe)
Now for the topic, I react quickly to confrontation. I usually get very angry and am all to often quick to go on the offense. When I drink I usually test people in an aggressive way which is something I really need to stop doing. I have very minimal restraint which causes problems. I often will lose my mind quickly and when this happens my thoughts come out of my mouth that probably nobody can understand. (The tornado in words haha)
I like to challenge people too much and this is one of the things I would like to change. To let go and know that my response is not needed at all times.

[PoorPrincess]

Originally Posted by LUTE20

I am not the type of person who wants attention. I don't like drama or anything like that. People say I am a narc. But I think that's just my avoiding bad situations like with people who confront I tend to steer away because I react more physically than anything. What I am wondering mostly for narcs what type of like thoughts when you are confronted with someone who wants to argue with you? And I'm wondering how much restraint do you have?

Just wanted to clarify that for those of us of older generation or so, " narc " first comes to mind as the slang/abbreviated version of narcotics agent.

Just saying, FYI.

That's what I thought. Are we really that old now???
In all my narcissistic ways I only remember being call a narcissist one time and I am almost 40!!! (although I was told over the weekend by someone I just met that I looked around 25) HAHAHAHA

[LUTE20]

Originally Posted by Underground

Are people really called "narcs" as much as people write here??(Hard for me to believe)
Now for the topic, I react quickly to confrontation. I usually get very angry and am all to often quick to go on the offense. When I drink I usually test people in an aggressive way which is something I really need to stop doing. I have very minimal restraint which causes problems. I often will lose my mind quickly and when this happens my thoughts come out of my mouth that probably nobody can understand. (The tornado in words haha)
I like to challenge people too much and this is one of the things I would like to change. To let go and know that my response is not needed at all times.

some people on this site say narc. And I like the nickname.

When I get drunk I either end up fighting or just laughing at the other person. It's dependent on how the other person reacts. Like I get so honest really. I tend to let the words fly when sober but it's extremely bad when I'm drunk. Usually the person resorts to either fighting or in my gf's case crying. And I can't really say I'm sincerely sorry for what I said usually when sober I agree with what I said it's just something I would hold back on normally.

When I'm anger when drunk it isn't a safe situation. I literally want to kill the other person. I've had thoughts when sober of setting this guy at work on fire or raping him with a knife and the like. If I were to get drunk and annoyed by him idk what would happen but I don't hang around people I don't like for this reason because I have fantasies when sober and I get in a high strung rage mood I don't know what I would do. And I can't make it in prison. So I try to make it staying as closely in the guidelines society has made.

Also when drunk I don't like being around people I like either. I make sometimes dumb choices. Like once I was drunk and hanging out with some people I thought this guy was cute and we started flirting I ended up texting my bf at the time that I was breaking up with him despite the fact that I still loved him well as much as I've ever loved anyone really and hooked up with the guy I was hanging out with and normally didn't even like him. I have lost a lot of relationships this way that I didn't want to get out of. But made a decision on the whim due to alcohol. So I tend to not like being drunk around anyone tbh. But yeah when I'm drunk I tend to do and say anything that feels right at the moment. Sober I have a little restraint my restraint is more hit and run in arguments. If I stick around someone tends to go to the hospital. But I've only stuck around like one or twice. When I'm drunk I tend to stick around and then fights ensue. But what I don't get is why people get upset. I mean if you say something to start **** idk why you don't expect to get what you deserve. If there were no laws I bet I'd be less restrained.

[Gingy01]

Sounds like drinking in moderation might be something to work on too.

I almost always get myself into some kind of trouble every time I drink.

[LUTE20]

Originally Posted by Gingy01

Sounds like drinking in moderation might be something to work on too.

I almost always get myself into some kind of trouble every time I drink.

I am trying to work on just not drinking because moderation doesn't really work if I had one I'll probably have many more. I'm just like that really. I meant to stay sober originally but I had a bf who went to parties and drank so I eventually did myself and that was when I was 14 still haven't really been able to go without longer than 1 to 2 weeks.

[Gingy01]

Sounds like a good idea. Maybe removing yourself from people that you might be tempted to drink with might be a good idea too.

[LUTE20]

Originally Posted by Gingy01

Sounds like a good idea. Maybe removing yourself from people that you might be tempted to drink with might be a good idea too.

Seriously, my own job tempts me at times to drink. And I actually need that lol.

Trouble or more fun????? Im going with more fun!!!

[Teacake]

Originally Posted by LUTE20

I am not the type of person who wants attention. I don't like drama or anything like that. People say I am a narc. But I think that's just my avoiding bad situations like with people who confront I tend to steer away because I react more physically than anything. What I am wondering mostly for narcs what type of like thoughts when you are confronted with someone who wants to argue with you? And I'm wondering how much restraint do you have?

Originally Posted by PoorPrincess

Just wanted to clarify that for those of us of older generation or so, " narc " first comes to mind as the slang/abbreviated version of narcotics agent.

Just saying, FYI.

Lol! As a verb it meant to "red on one" or "red one out" ie to report, bust, or reprimand. "Coach narced on me about missing practice. That was pretty red.". Red meant redneck.

[LUTE20]

Originally Posted by Teacake

Lol! As a verb it meant to "red on one" or "red one out" ie to report, bust, or reprimand. "Coach narced on me about missing practice. That was pretty red.". Red meant redneck.

I've heard of that term

[shakespeare47]

At the OP... regarding the title of this thread. My angry, violent fantasies truly scare me at times.

[ihatedepechemode]

Hues. But unlike everyone else, it has nothing to do with alcahol. If I burn, I just burn. Comes on with no reason and I'm just now seeing this. Latest one has lasted 2 weeks so far.

[Atypical_Disaster]

As far as the original question goes, yes I do. However, I'm also ASPD. So that accounts for some of it. Most other narcissists I've met usually don't have the same amount of aggression that I do.

I bet I do!!!

[shakespeare47]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

As far as the original question goes, yes I do. However, I'm also ASPD. So that accounts for some of it. Most other narcissists I've met usually don't have the same amount of aggression that I do.

I've never hurt anyone ( did punch my brother when I was 12 or 13, and I ended up with a broken hand while he got a bruise- the story of my life. I get mad and try to hurt someone, but it ends up hurting me more in the end.).. but, I have had some very violent fantasies regarding what I'd like to do to some people that have "crossed" me.

In all serious I do have crazy thoughts, some that I would never share cause they would probably lock me up LOL. When I feel that tension that we all know so well I imagine at times the worst things that the someone who has caused these feelings could endure with plans and all. Other times I seek ways to get back as I always want to feel like I have the upper hand which could take seconds, weeks, months and even years. Even if the words I share cause grief to the one, it all makes things right.
Now after writing that last paragraph I know how wrong this is. How immature and stupid that I need to allow these feelings hold me back and make me nuts(part of the sickness???). Truth is to be able to let things go and continue forward is so much better, easier and the right thing to do. Easier said than done though! Images are not our friend but really our worst enemy which is the root of all our evils. IMO